DS purposelly put may contains in mouth

Posted on: Tue, 07/06/2004 - 9:37am
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(sorry, I meant purposely)

Has anyone ever experienced this? My DS took candy that his friend was eating (who wasn't supposed to be eating) and after I told him that he couldn't have it because the label said it may contain peanuts, he responded " so, I don't care" and popped on into his mouth and ate it!

He has been a little more than irresponsible with this lately and down right deviant when it comes to anything to do with his FA's. He refuses to wear his E-belt and tries to lose his medic alert bracelet. He has made every excuse in the book as to why he doesn't want to wear the belt. I don't understand. Nothing has changed in the last two weeks and no one has been discussing it, so what is going on?

We went to the IMAX theater over the weekend and even though the place was spotless and I wiped down all the leather seats, he still came out of the theater with blood shot eyes and a runny nose. I never said anything to him, but I told him to use the restroom and to wash his hands and face. I didn't refer to his FA. And I gave him his benadryl and just told him I wanted him to take it before we went into the Aquarium.

Out of the blue yesterday he said he wanted to be homeschooled. I told him no, that I have done everything for next year to make his school safe and he will be fine. He responded by saying " then I am gonna sleep in my bed forever and never wake up" What do you guys suggest? I am at a loss. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Thanks

Sorry, I fogot to mention he is six and going in first grade.

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Renee athma/EA
Quinton: PA/TNA/Soy/EA/Severe Asthma/whole egg/onion/cocoa bean/chicken/turkey/string beans/potato
Mykiaja: EA/asthma
Taylor: EA/asthma

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Posted on: Tue, 07/06/2004 - 9:42am
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You don't say how old he is. Old enough to be in school, that's it.
I can see two things (but I am not talking from experience).
1. he's developping his own comfort zone, and experimenting about his allergies. In other words, he's fed up with your rules, and wants his own. You would see such a reaction across the board, and hormones kicking in too, I would presume.
2. something bad happened in a group. He could have been teased, he could have been pointed at. I would tend to believe in this one with his desire to *not* go to school next year. Sounds to me that his desire to homeschool is more of a desire to avoid the school crowd. In some cases it's a good thing, when the school crowd is way too rough, but it doesn't sound like it's the case here.

Posted on: Tue, 07/06/2004 - 10:08am
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[quote]Originally posted by darthcleo:
[B]You don't say how old he is.
I am sorry, I meant to say that he is six years old and will be in first grade come August.
He hasn't been in school for over a month and his friends have been really good about it. I do know that he has expressed some fear about what it could do to him and that is why it is so hard to understand why he ate the candy.
I have tried to explain his disease the easiest way possible, as to not frighten him but make him aware. I also read the thread that deals with informing your PA child. I am just looking for thoughts to kick around to see if there is away to rid this problem or to show him what he is doing is a real danger.
Thank you for your information. I do believe he is getting sick of "my" comfort zone. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 07/06/2004 - 1:12pm
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There is a thread on the "Living with PA" section that discusses a 9 year old girl and suggestions for dealing w/ her anixiety over PA (that is the thread title).
Maybe some of those suggestions would work for your ds? Feelings of being alone, the only one w/ restrictions, trying to be independent hit different kids at different times.

Posted on: Tue, 07/06/2004 - 9:38pm
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Chicago,
Thanks, I was wondering what the name of that post was. I had been reading it, but nothing has really seemed to work. I just hope his little rebellion works before he hurts himself.
Thanks,
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Renee athma/EA
Quinton: PA/TNA/Soy/EA/Severe Asthma/whole egg/onion/cocoa bean/chicken/turkey/string beans/potato
Mykiaja: EA/asthma
Taylor: EA/asthma

Posted on: Wed, 07/07/2004 - 2:46am
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I strongly agree with having a DR. speak with him about how he needs to behave.
WOW Chris is 18 and never spoke to me in that way.
Is your son normally bold with you or is it only in regaurds to the food allergy.
I am not trying to judge your child by any means but trying to figure out why he is acting out like this.
I would just think that a child listens to the parent when it comes to safety and trust us over their own judgement.
Chris still listens to me every day.
Talk with your DR. and i bet he can come up with why he is acting out like this.
It sounds like he has something major on his mind and doesn't know how to handle it.
Good luck to you. Claire

Posted on: Wed, 07/07/2004 - 3:14am
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It sounds like your son might scared about his PA and doesn't quite know how to deal with it. I have written a children's book ("The Peanut Pickle") about PA that might help him. It will be out in a few weeks and I would like to send you a free copy -- no strings attached! Please e-mail me off-list with your contact info and I will send one out to you as soon as they come in.
Jessica

Posted on: Wed, 07/07/2004 - 3:52am
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No, DS is usually not bold like this. Only when it comes to his FA and only here lately. Bursting into his independence I guess. I have been discussing it with my Psychology professor and he feels the same as me, that he is prob. worried or scared and doesn't this is his way of expressing it.
I know that when I confront him as to why he doesn't want to eat something or why he doesn't want to do something, it is always ..because. He refuses to give me an answer, but if I press..he gets teary eyed and covers his eyes. He really is such an emotional boy.
I appreciate your kindness and offering to send me a book. If you want me to buy it, I will. I have bought every book I could think of and he listens and if I ask questions..he knows.. I agree that I would think he knows I know what is safe and that he would trust in that, but he is choosing not to.
I really think that he has seen where he has a reaction with things sometimes and then is lucky to not have a reaction other times and it is confusing for him. He just says..I ate it before.. He doesn't understand.
Thank you all...
Renee

Posted on: Wed, 07/07/2004 - 5:11am
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MQriley, I hope you make out soon with your little boy. It is so hard trying to understand what could be going through their little heads.
You must be a wreck with the possibilities of what could happen.
good luck to you. claire

Posted on: Wed, 07/07/2004 - 11:19am
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MQriley2, if it's any consolation, my dd has behaved very similarly to your ds. She tends to be both very anxious about calling attention to her allergies and is also quite rebellious. She is 9 1/2 and has managed to stay safe for a long time. So, even though she drives me absolutely insane; I have to believe that when push comes to shove she is taking care of herself properly. I hope your ds will be the same way.
It would certainly save us a lot of stress if all pa kids were docile and listened to their mothers!
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Miriam

Posted on: Thu, 07/08/2004 - 12:12am
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haha, it would be nice if ALL my kids were docile and listened to me..haha
I am just waiting to see if this rebellious stage ends. I don't understand why he would try and eat food he knows could hurt him. I have not heard of any other kids doing that on this board. Hopefully the struggling ends soon. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
Yesterday and today have been crazy! His attitude has done a 360. Now it is not just with his allergies..it is during everyday life that he is being...mmm...defiantly independent. I'm gonna pull my hair out!! Thanks for the laugh though, I did need that today.
Renee

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