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Posted on: Tue, 04/18/2006 - 8:49am
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

Gwen 5, we have the STAR testing too. Are you in California? My dd is in 5th grade, so this comes up every year. Most years I bring all the food for all the kids and they do a sign up list for drinks, since the drinks are usually juices or Capri Suns and will be safe. I like to bring all the food, because then she can eat all of it. It is 8 days, so it can get expensive, but then we really can`t eat out due to the milk allergy, so I save money there. It is worth it to me, so that she can eat exactly the same food as everyone else. Some years I get reimbursed, but most years I don`t. Some years instead the teacher has me make a list of prepackaged foods and the parents sign up to bring it. This would be things like mini bags of Teddy Grahams, Fruit by the Foot, fruit cups. The only problem with that is that parents often think it is okay to make a small change, and then the food is not safe for dd (more due to milk allergy than the pa). So I really prefer to bring the food for all the kids every day for the eight days.

Posted on: Tue, 04/18/2006 - 10:02am
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I guess I fall in the middle. His 1st year of preschool he wasn't allowed to touch anything I didn't provide. I thought it was too confusing for him to not know the hard and fast rule. When he turned 5 I would give specific permission only for 'fruit day' and 'vegetable day' but he usually preferred to stick to what he'd brought anyhow.
I used to make all his food for Thanksgiving and Easter too but when he turned 5 and it became unlikely he'd outgrow PA despite no rxns in 2.5 years, I started letting him eat many foods at these large family gatherings as well. You should have seen how thrilled he was at Easter...he gorged himself and kept thanking dh's aunt for the cooking! But at least I am there hovering and watching and asking questions, and everything's made from scratch.
As far as baked goods, it's rare he is allowed to touch anything not made from scratch by me and then only something made from scratch by family.

Posted on: Tue, 04/18/2006 - 11:01pm
Gwen 5's picture
Joined: 01/24/2003 - 09:00

Yes, I am in California.
Thanks for all the imput! I grapple every time we have a food "event" at school.
It is coming time to review 504 plan for next year and this issue made me think alot.
I also try to opt to bring in all the food also- on the other hand I can ask dd to just eat the packaged food- but she misses out having that freedom that all the other kids have and if their IS an opportunity for her to be like everyone else, I try to allow it.
I am not having a fit over the fruit and veggies because it will be safe for her to be around.
I guess when I think, I am not going to let her even eat the fruit- people might think I am going overboard and way to obnoxious.
I am going to explore this a little more.
I really appreciate all your imput- Thanks

Posted on: Tue, 04/18/2006 - 11:39pm
BS312's picture
Joined: 09/05/2001 - 09:00

PA, TNA, dairy and egg-allergic DD does not have the freedom that others have to eat whatever they want. She is not "normal" where food is concerned. (She is "normal" in every other way.) She always has to bring her food with her. If she doesn't bring her food, she doesn't eat.
Is this fair? No. Do we just have to accept that this is how her life is? Yes. Do we care that others might consider us obnoxious when we refuse their food? No. We do what is necessary to keep her safe.

Posted on: Wed, 04/19/2006 - 3:30am
caryn's picture
Joined: 11/20/2002 - 09:00

I understand how hard it is to define what limits you want to follow -- my son now has 9 other food allergies along with peanut so we have progressed to a tight limit -- all food comes from home - no exceptions!
i provided all the candy for the preschool egg hunt and when I went to pick him up he asked if he could eat a piece -- the teachers had said yes but he wanted to make sure it was safe -- I congratulated him on making a great decision and having the self control to wait for me.

Posted on: Wed, 04/19/2006 - 4:08am
LuvMyKids's picture
Joined: 06/26/2005 - 09:00

We just started letting one friend prepare cut up fruits and veggies for my six year old. This is a friend who has known us for years and is SO GOOD with allergies, and I still feel a little twinge of fear. So no, the general population cannot prepare food my dd.

Posted on: Thu, 04/20/2006 - 5:20am
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Joined: 03/24/2004 - 09:00

sometimes close friends.
depends on what it is.
James 4 yrs, NKA
Ben 3 yrs, PA and MA and SA

Posted on: Thu, 04/20/2006 - 5:48am
Naturemom's picture
Joined: 09/30/2004 - 09:00

No. It is either made at our home or an unopened pre-packaged item. Cross contamination is just too likely, in my opinion. This is his normal, so just the way it is. We are dealing with other allergies in addition to peanut, but if only peanut I think that we would still do it this way. I also like that there are no grey areas, like accept food made by person A but not by person B (no confusion or hurt feelings).


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