Do you allow non PA siblings to eat peanut products?

Posted on: Fri, 02/06/2004 - 7:11am
MomTo2's picture
Joined: 01/23/2004 - 09:00

My non PA 3 1/2 year old asked for PB & J today and then got real upset when I said no. He told me that his sister was taking a nap and wouldn't eat it, so it was ok for him. Being new to all this, I am not at all comfortable with any peanut butter at all in our house anymore. How do you handle other children with no PA and really get them to understand why it affects him too?

Posted on: Fri, 02/06/2004 - 10:47am
Lindajo's picture
Joined: 10/14/2003 - 09:00

When my DD had her anaphylactic reaction at 2 yrs., I banned PB and all nuts from our house. She is the youngest of 4, and my other children grew up on the stuff but understood that it could kill her, so they were OK with it.
It wasn't until she was about 4 and started preschool, (she's 8 now) that I started letting the older kids have PBJs again. In our house, its in a very controlled environment. If she is home, she eats her lunch in the living room (she's ok with that as she knows it is for her safety), and the others have to eat it in the kitchen using paper plates, napkins, cups; I make the sandwich and pour the milk. This way I know exactly where the PB is going and can clean up more thoroughly. When they finish, they have to wash their hands in the kitchen and dry with paper towels and rinse their mouth out. I throw everything away in a separate plastic bag before putting it into the trash. Then I wipe down the table.
It is harder when they are little as they get into everything. It is a little easier when they get older, because they understand what can happen. Also, if your DD is allergic to touch or smell, I would be careful with it being in the house. My DD is only ingestion allergic.
[This message has been edited by Lindajo (edited February 06, 2004).]

Posted on: Fri, 02/06/2004 - 11:29am
Shaylynsmom's picture
Joined: 01/17/2004 - 09:00

My dd is PA/TNA, when we found out I banned all peanut and tree nut products from our house. My 8 yr. old non PA was fine with this when we explained the reasons why we no longer could eat it. My comfort zone does not allow me to have these in my house, information I have found on peanut protein claims it can stay on surfaces for up to 6 months. IMO there is just too much to worry about in the preparation and clean up stages such as using paper everything, you must wash the knife with paper towel so there is no residue, make sure the surface where prepared is cleaned well, table area cleaned well, etc. I just will not take any chances.
We have just recently bought our non PA the product, Soy Nut Butter, he loves it, it has the texture and taste of PB and you would never know the difference in the PB&J and the soy nut butter. We do not allow dd to have this since the taste and look is too close to PB, don't want to confuse her.
I found this to be a good compromise and the fact that he is allowed to eat peanut when not at home he must just tell me and wash his hands and brush is teeth when he comes home. He has no problems with these rules.
Alicia, mom to:
Edward-20 years-EA,dog, cat,sulfa drugs
Cody-8 years- EA,dog,cat,mosquito
Shaylyn-4 years-PA/TNA,dog,cat,Amoxicillian,Zithromax,Asthma

Posted on: Sat, 02/07/2004 - 2:58am
nicolimom's picture
Joined: 02/04/2004 - 09:00

Everyone in my house acts as if they are allergic as well. There are no nut products in our house of any kind.
My son is contact sensitive(as well as anaphylactic). If we eat peanut products and kiss him, he breaks out in welts where contact was made. He has shared toys w/kids who had pb&J, and has had a couple incidents where his eyes have practically swelled shut after touching the toy , then his face.
My older son, even though he is not allergic, is not allowed to eat peanuts at school, his teachers know this.

Posted on: Sat, 02/07/2004 - 7:40am
Jennifer1970's picture
Joined: 11/25/2002 - 09:00

We have peanutbutter in the house because Hannah isn't topically or airborn sensitive. With the exception of John's icecream (that we store seperately and eat only after Hannah has gone to bed) our house is nut-free. That stunned my mother. She said in a rather unbelieving voice "you don't have any nuts in your house ?" I said "nope. and we won't. I want Hannah's house to be 100%safe. If at any time she shows a sensitivity to having peanutbutter in the house , that's gone too."

Posted on: Sat, 02/07/2004 - 10:26am
KateB's picture
Joined: 05/11/2004 - 09:00

No peanuts or nuts at all in our house. I feel that our PA son should have one place where he can feel safe. There is nowhere else in our world where he can do that. This is his haven. Can you imagine never, ever being able to let your guard down?
Also, how can we expect others to give up eating peanut butter at school to keep our PA kids safe, if we can't do it at home?
Just my opinion and comfort level.

Posted on: Sat, 02/07/2004 - 2:19pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I'm with nicolimom in that my non PA son is to be treated as if he was PA. My friends know this, and his preschool knows this. In the box that asks if he has any allergies, I ALWAYS put "sister is extremely allergic to peanuts. Please do not let him come into contact with any nuts" I also discuss the issue with whoever will be in charge of him during class, etc. At home, my dh has his "stash" of hard candies that "may contain" but he keeps them way up high and my PA dd knows she can't have any. Nothing else in our house even has 'may contain'. I figured the LEAST I could do was give her a safe environment. Now whenever someone asks non PA ds if he would like a treat, he asks them if it has peanuts in it because his sister is allergic - even when she's not there. I won't even eat PB when I'm away from the house and without her. guitly feeling and all. I really miss PB.

Posted on: Sat, 02/07/2004 - 7:01pm
SLICE's picture
Joined: 07/20/2000 - 09:00

We don't allow any peanut or nut products in our house, either. It would be like keeping a loaded gun without the safety on in the kitchen. We want to support our PA son, and his younger brother totally understands this.

Posted on: Mon, 02/09/2004 - 12:11am
attlun's picture
Joined: 06/13/2003 - 09:00

No pn or tn in our house at all. I think it will be easier for us, our younger children it will be all they've ever known.
Trevor age 2 -PA
Harmony age 1 -KNA
It's a BOY!!! due June 24, 2004

Posted on: Mon, 02/09/2004 - 12:23am
becca's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Since our PA child is the older, there is no need to introduce peanut products and we cannot until ds is 5 anyway. We also use soy butter, so it is almost the same(to us, anyway). So, no, we willnot let him have PB or nut products at least until he is of school age. Then we need to revisit what he can do at school versus at home if not allergic.
Will keep it out of the house if dd stays allergic. becca

Posted on: Mon, 02/09/2004 - 7:39am
marina_twinmom's picture
Joined: 09/06/2001 - 09:00

We don't have any peanut or almond products in our house at all.


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