Crazy mother-in-law rant

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 5:14am
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My poor DH had the misfortune of visiting his mom recently, thankfully he went alone. She laid into him about a myriad of things, one of which was our youngest son's PA. Apparently it's ALL MY FAULT! According to her (she is an R.N. and has a list of degrees as long as your arm, so of course that makes her some type of god) if I had not fed him any peanut butter until he was 3 he wouldn't be allergic! Wow! Now we have the answer - aren't you all so glad LOL. I am so very, very glad I was not there and that she lives many miles away from us.

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 5:40am
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Oh, well that is just an awful and IGNORANT thing to say.
If she's so smart about food allergies, she should have given you this warning ahead of time. I would also ask her for the literature that shows this guarantee. I withheld peanut butter/nuts from my ds who had an anaphylactic reaction at the age of 4 years, 3 months almost to the day.
Unfortunately, there are going to be many days of dealing with crazy people over this allergy. Best to let it slide right by!
Hugs and don't worry about her!!!!

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 6:03am
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Hmmmmm.... wonder if she's any relation to the friend's MIL that nastily proclaimed that to her son and DIL that Down's syndrome is "always the WOMAN's fault" upon the birth of their trisomy daughter?
People are stupid. And mean. This sucketh mightily.
{{hugs}} (Good thing you were miles away, right? No need to post 'bail' that way. LOL!)

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 6:31am
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We avoided and still have PA. (((Hugs))) That's a horible thing to say, especially since she herself is a mom. Some people can be so mean. I've had people tell me it's my fault because I have PA along with other allergies. And I have people tell me my son is PA because I never gave him peanutbutter. Some people expect for me to give him traces because they believe that it would densitize him. I think it's so mean. And I don't care what degrees anyone has - some people don't have a clue. (((Hugs))) again.

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 7:05am
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Quote:Originally posted by madtypr:
[b] Apparently it's ALL MY FAULT! According to her ... if I had not fed him any peanut butter until he was 3 he wouldn't be allergic![/b]
Um! Ya! OK!
You are all bad mothers. (shame on you)
But, honestly, I never fed my son insects. NEVER! So, could you ask her how he got his allergy? (Enquiring minds want to know. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] )
I did feed my kids pb when they were little. They have no food allergies though. (Oh my! Could it be she's [i]wrong[/i]?)
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Can you tell I'm in a nasty and sarcastic mood today. I'll go a few rounds with her for you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 7:49am
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Thanks so much for the support! I really do just take her with a grain of salt, she's just an idiot as far as I'm concerned - all book learning and absolutely NO common sense. She's just so darn smug about everything, truly thinks she KNOWS-IT-ALL! GRRRRR.
BTW, DH brought up to her one of our daughter's teachers that was just diagnosed with PA and she's in her 30s, but that didn't matter lol.

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 7:52am
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Quote:Originally posted by momll70:
[b]That's a horible thing to say, especially since she herself is a mom. [/b]
Oh, her being a mom means absolutely nothing. He was told during the same visit that if she'd known that heart disease ran in his dad's family she'd have never had children! She's told me on more than one occasion she didn't want kids (but she had 4!).

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 7:54am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b]Hmmmmm.... wonder if she's any relation to the friend's MIL that nastily proclaimed that to her son and DIL that Down's syndrome is "always the WOMAN's fault" upon the birth of their trisomy daughter?
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Oh my goodness! I think that's the worst thing I've ever heard! God bless your friend and her family!!!

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 9:12am
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Very good thing she lives far, far away! Yuck. Hugs, that was horrible to say.
becca

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 9:32am
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Huh...well I waited until ds was 3 and he is still PA. I think it's HER fault!

Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2007 - 11:47pm
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Is she also a "clipper" you know the one that clips every article about food allergies and hands them to you like "you haven't done your research" So glad you weren't there poor DH.

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