Comfort Zone

Posted on: Wed, 01/21/2004 - 4:02am
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Could you describe your comfort zone and explain your reasoning. I sometimes feel that my comfort zone may be too loose, but so far has worked for us. My daughter has not had a reaction in 9 years now. It may just simply be luck. I am so afraid that we will let our guard down and really mess up? Thanks for your time.

Posted on: Wed, 01/21/2004 - 7:52am
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sport...I think I feel like you...I have a rather tight comfort zone...think I should relent a bit, then comes to mind, "what if?"
It's been a bit over 3 1/2 years with no anaphylatic reaction and I really don't want to "take a chance"--each of my son's reactions were progressively worse. I was told at his check up 13 months ago to expect the "pattern" to continue if/when he reacts again. What is next in the "pattern" following a multi-organ shutdown? No...sport...can't relax on this one.

Posted on: Thu, 01/22/2004 - 4:57am
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Simply re-raising so that sport's original question doesn't get lost in the re-raising of old threads re comfort zones (I did re-raise one as well).
sport, hope to get in to answer you later tonight. Have been quite ill and now have a lost dog. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
Also, please don't take offense at my re-raising the comfort zones thread in Living with PA. It was not done to negate your question, simply to compliment it. I hope I did say that when I re-raised it last night, though unclear due to migraine.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 01/22/2004 - 5:20am
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No---I appreciate you re-raising it. The more I can read the better. Thank you.

Posted on: Thu, 01/22/2004 - 7:25am
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A comfort zone is obviously a very individual thing, and if your daughter has been reaction free for 9 years, then yours is working. I can't see any reason to make it tighter if it has worked for you for 9 years.
I also have what seems to be a somewhat looser zone than others on this board, and sometimes I wonder if I should rethink it. But our daughter has been reaction free for more than 4 years, no reaction since her very first, so I am OK with that.

Posted on: Thu, 01/22/2004 - 4:53pm
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sport, I did post the same thing to you in the other current thread you have running under Living with PA. If your comfort zone has been working for you and your daughter for so long, despite what you read here, why change it? It very obviously works (i.e., no reactions).
By the time I found PA.com, which was within a month of getting a computer, I already had the comfort zone I have in place now in place. I remember when I was a new member and read some things, I thought, OMG, am I doing something wrong? I already had the school stuff and everything else in place.
What I didn't have and what I do get here, is quick information. I also get support, encouragement, caring, concern and advice. I remember I had an incident with a girlfriend of mine and her children when I didn't have PA.com. It had something to do with PA and I was very very upset. I couldn't come home and post about it here and have people settle me down, as is so often the case. I had to go home, unplug the phone so that she couldn't get through to me and settle myself down, which was a lot harder to do without PA.com than it is now.
I'm not saying that I haven't learned a LOT here. In fact, everything I've learned about PA is basically from PA.com. It has also reinforced for me personally why I have the comfort zone that I do have.
I'll use the cream cheese example again that I've used many times before. When I was new, I kept reading about people trying to find safe cream cheese for their PA children.
I couldn't figure out what they were talking about. Philadelphia Cream Cheese, Canadian specific, didn't have any warnings on it. I had used it without incident. But there are members here that don't use it and more importantly, when I was a newbie, they weren't using it and I couldn't figure out why. Also, for some strange reason (for me [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] ) I didn't think to come out and just plain ask.
Well, I finally called Kraft Canada which owns Philadelphia Cream Cheese and got for me, what I consider the definitive answer. Philadelphia Cream Cheese is also made in the same building as Kraft Peanut Butter. Separate floor. Great allergy precautions, etc. But that was why, for Canadian members anyway.
I switched brands.
Or, when Jesse had his hive only reaction to Duncan Hines cake mix, I posted about it here. I was just talking about that to-day because my children are going to a birthday party this week-end and the Mom is making the cake. She asked me what cake mix was okay and I said Betty Crocker. I told her that Duncan Hines is labeled as being okay. Anyway, Jess has the hive only reaction to Duncan Hines. I call them and they tell me no chance of cross-contamination, etc. but then I post about it here and learn that many Canadians are not comfortable with Duncan Hines and for a reason (although the reason now escapes me at this hour).
So, I have made slight adjustments to our comfort zone based on information that I've gained here, but basically it is still the same.
I don't do a LOT of things that fellow members do. That's okay. I'm not them. Sometimes even now, I'll sit back and really question whether I *should* be doing what I read about here. But I recognize that for me now, a change in comfort zone would really have to do with me having to tighten up my comfort zone should Jesse have a reaction.
I visited a friend of mine recently, a PA.com member and PA parent. She has some things on her list of things that aren't okay that aren't on my list. I respect that. I thought about what she had to say and checked things out here as well that she had mentioned.
Just as we all parent differently, we all deal with PA differently and again, I have to say, if your daughter has been reaction free for so long and you have your comfort zone in place, it must be working. I'd respect what other people post as their comfort zones, simply because I think they *should* be respected and never questioned, but don't worry about what other people are doing if your daughter is okay. Do you know what I mean?
I also remember when I was new to the board (and I recognize that you're not), that I was overwhelmed by what I saw and downright frightened. I sifted through what I needed to sift through and still came out with basically the same comfort zone I had before I came to PA.com.
I just came out with a lot more education, understanding, and friends around me.
I think you're doing fine. Don't start second guessing yourself now. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 01/22/2004 - 11:31pm
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thanks everyone for your answers. I go through periods of time when I do second guess myself. I also worry that my children will become lax because of having no reactions for so long. I am so thankful that I found this website. It makes you remember that you are not alone. Everyone is very diligent about their allergy, but you guys really understand. I also have learned countless things from you all. Thank you.

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