class party etiquette?

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 8:32am
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Here's my situation: PA ds is 5, in his second year of school, and I'm the class mom for his kindergarten class. I also have a 3 yr old little boy. I have always attended all of my PA son's school parties, and bring his own safe cupcake or whatever the treat is. This year as one of the two class moms, of course I helped plan the party, and will need to be there to help out.

The problem: I have always had a family member babysit ds #2. He has not been allergy tested yet, we have never had nuts in the house and he's never even eaten a may contain. All family who watch him know all they need to wrt allergy/epi/911. For this upcoming party, all the usual family sitters are busy. Should I ask the teacher if I can just bring him to the party? The other mom told me she used to bring her then-3-yr-old son when she was a class mom for her older child (she didn't even ask, she just brought him along [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] ), and said she would be happy tp help keep an eye on him. It's only an hour party, and besides the two of us, there are three teachers. I can't *not* go, or else my PA son said he wouldn't go (he said he wants me there to read the labels on the things other people bring [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] ) Would it be out of line to ask? He's 3 and a half, and knows most of the kids from the playground - I think he could reasonably behave himself, lol.

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 8:40am
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This was the norm last year when my kids were in Grade 1. Lots of the Mom's would bring in their 3 yr. olds(that were going into J.K. the next year) I think it's a great way for the young ones to get use to the school and get to know some kids they might later me in class with.
Just do it and no explaining needed IMO.

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 11:21am
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This sounds terrible, but I would just take him without asking because if she says no then you are really stuck.
But I'd give the little one a real good pep talk ahead of time about being on his best behavior at the "big kids party." Even if he is usually great, it can't hurt for him to be extra good.
If he is an angel at the party, I can't see the teacher complaining about it--but if she does, at least you have fair warning before the next party.

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 11:40am
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I was in this exact same situation last year when my ds was three. I think I overdid it on the pep talk (telling him he had to be Mommy's helper, etc.) - LOL, because my poor little guy was with me every second trying his best to "help"! It all worked out fine, however.
I have to agree that you shouldn't ask in advance. Since you don't have anyone else to watch him you really have no choice. If the teacher says anything you can just apologize and try not to have it happen again.
I was really mad, one time, when I asked if I could bring my little one to an end of the year class picnic. I actually paid for a babysitter and then when I got there I saw a lot of other younger siblings! Those moms hadn't asked; they just brought them along. I learned something that day.
Good luck; I hope you and both of your boys have fun at the party.
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 11:55am
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Thanks so much for the replies [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
You guys said exactly what my co-class mom told me - just bring him, don't even ask. I'll keep mum for now [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
I'm hoping against hope that either my one relative finds herself able to come Friday, or dh is able to rearrange his schedule to be home that day. (I've only asked him since September to keep that day free!) I'll let you know how it works out.

Posted on: Mon, 10/25/2004 - 12:32pm
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Just another vote for bring him along without asking. I always left my ds at home with a sitter when attending my older ds class things. There was always little ones there when I arrived even babies. I think it would be fine. Hope all goes well.
Linda

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