Mommabear, I am wondering like Amy what made you feel comfortablae giving your cubs the cheesecake, I do not think Amy meant (but then again I am not Amy so...)that they assured you that it was 100% peanut free, but its apparent that you felt comfortable on some level ( either what youwere told, or saw or was it a new cake they got your pieces from) because you did give it to the kids.
I ate at cheesecake factory once with my non pa dd I liked the idea that they brought out bananas and oranges too.

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[b] Mommabear, I am wondering like Amy what made you feel comfortablae giving your cubs the cheesecake, I do not think Amy meant (but then again I am not Amy so...)that they assured you that it was 100% peanut free, but its apparent that you felt comfortable on some level ( either what youwere told, or saw or was it a new cake they got your pieces from) because you did give it to the kids.
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let me think about this. I'm not sure it was a "feel comfortable" decision rather than a "activities of daily living--calculated risk/benefit" thing.
KWIM? I'm not even sure I can put my finger on it, (Big Picture Thing--that includes an inventory of experiences not even related to Cheesecake Factory right down to never having stepped foot inside facilities of just about *all* the suppliers of the food that enters my very home) but for starters, the folk *I* encountered from corporate on down were very [i]professional[/i]. But hey, Individual Mileage May Vary.
Do I think my children (ages 6 and 10) are never going to eat out? I mean, I can think whatever I want, but personally I prefer to be the one to educate my child in the ways of the world rather than leave them to take those first tenuous steps on their own. KWIM? Besides, after working over 12 years in restaurants (maybe more) I've found most restaurant dining experiences to be [i]highly over-rated[/i]. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
You know what they say about what you can't have.
You know, I talked to another parent this week regarding a school activity, and I heard over the phone: [i]"Oh! You're (my child's name) mom![/i] My daughter talks about him [i]all the time[/i]. She's crushing on him. Has he mentioned her name?" (just remembered the "has he mentioned her name" part. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] )
He's 10. In the body of a near 15 year old. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
And he's gorgeous. [i]and kind[/i]. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
His conversations already include visions of a family and a lifestyle and of course, [i]entertainment[/i]. And most likely he will want to take his dates to some of the nicer restaurants. With or without my permission.
Or...............I'll always be happy to provide the warmth and hospitality of our own family dinner table. To him and his guest.
You know, he's already purchased some adorable, velvet lined silver jewelry boxes for some of his "friends" at school for Valentines.
I mean, I'm not talking about giving my cubs "carte blanche" regarding what they want or don't want. I'm talking about "anticipatory guidance". As much as I'd like to *think* telling my children "this is the way it is, the way it will be, and you will thank me", I'm pretty sure it's not *always* going to, or meant to, work [i]that way[/i]. And I'm a control freak. Go Figure.
There's some threads about "teen" years running. A study even. About the incidence of deaths (or injury?--not sure) from food allergies, I mean.
No surprises here. I mean, as a nurse, [i]and a mother[/i], and considering the litany of growing pains, some deadly that occur between these years. I mean, Food Allergies are just [b]one[/b] of the things I'm trying to provide [i]anticipatory guidance[/i] for to my beloved children. I mean, I can't [i]afford[/i] tunnel vision in this arena. And I can't afford to enter the arena last minute, either. Someday, I won't be [i]allowed[/i] into the arena period.
[i]"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." [/i](Proverbs 22:6)
And yes, the manager opened a new cheesecake. Served it himself. That said, I didn't take that as a 100% guarantee either. KWIM?
But hey, maybe that's just me. Maybe it's just my cubs.
General Disclaimer: I am not offering advice in any manner or form. Nada. No way, no how. Just describing my own personal highly individual and possibly unique situation, and who knows,.........potential failure as a parent. Individual Mileage May Vary. And ps.....when I say "I", I sometimes mean "we" as in "hubby and I", but in [i]those[/i] instances, if I say "we", I don't know, it kinda sounds creepy. Like gollum or something. KWIM? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] So I just say: "I". I just don't want to discount the role my hubby plays in raising our boys. He's done a fine job. And I don't even say (as a mother) "even for a man", [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] I mean, I don't know if I could do it without him. Which reminds me....I wonder if they are going to play "paintball" today. I mean, not sure if with the holiday they are open......Again, no advice, without proper equipment and training, it can be very dangerous, and even then.....[i]still.[/i]
edit brackets. and ooo. glaring typo highlighted in brackets, even.
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reading: page three, "Role of the Family"
interesting, but no surprises here.
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Mommabear I go to resturants all the time with my kids and I always access the desserts, most of the time we do not get them. If they have soft ice cream we always get it, with many questions asked of course.
I think we may have gotten cake from Olive Garden. I went in the kitchen examined the box , ingredients, made them open a fresh one, etc. I saw the kitchens of many resturants, lol I felt comfortable with that cake that day, maybe if i was having a high anxiety day I wouldnt of, kwim?
I think that is so cute that your son is buying valentines! My son just turned 8 and already I am hearing the word crush come from his mouth, but its never him its always another boy or girl has a crush on someone else, lol
I too am thinking about when he gets older and I find myself letting him lead, in resturants, at parties, etc to see how he handles himself in regards to his allergy and just life in general.
I am finding that my younger kids are questioning foods. His 5 year old brother may be his biggest protector, even refusing to sit on a horse named peanut because his brother is allergic

We just got back from eating at a Cheesecake Factory in the Houston area. We went to celebrate a stage performance for DS--and it's day before my 40th birthday--whoo hoo.
We were clear from the beginning about DS' peanut allergy and my shellfish allergy--and how my ana reaction was when the same tongs were used on shrimp as my beef, although my beef was cooked in a safe place (at another restaurant). The staff told us they received a lot of training re: food allergies. She talked with the chef about each thing we wanted.
We hadn't been to a CCF in a year and then had the avocado rolls (and had gone to extra, extra lengths then to make sure they were safe for DS). He obviously didn't dip them in the cashew sauce on that trip.
Today, we were told that they fry them (and everything else) in a blend of canola and peanut oil.
Now, I hadn't heard this before--and had heard that they do NOT use peanut oil. So I'm not sure this is really true. Or that it's true everywhere. But we certainly didn't risk it. The bruschetta was to live for anyway. And DS had sweet corn tamales.
But I thought I'd post this info here so folks would be extra vigilant. I will try to follow up on this later this week and call the restaurant to ask about this. There are certainly many, many things to eat. And we tend not to eat french fries. But those avocado rolls are FAB. And that would be too bad if this were really true.
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I ate a Cheesecake Factory in Las Vegas a couple of years ago. Its the only restaurant I've been to that the waitress brought up peanut/nut allergy before anyone even asked. I was impressed.

This was the only restaurant we walked out of during our recent trip to America. The manager spoke to us and recommended a couple of items on the menu but there were nuts everywhere. The place was packed solid and dimly lit and my instincts told me to get out fast!

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