Check out this song DD tells me they are singing for kindergarten graduation....

Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 7:44am
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DD is very upset and says they are going to "make her" sing it. I asked her why she didn't tell her teachers that this song was one she wouldn't sing and she said she was "embarrassed". This is about as thoughtful and considerate as the teacher bringing in cupcakes unplanned and my DD not having a treat to eat. I would think even non-allergic adults would have it cross their minds that this song is not appropriate and have the sensitivity to think of allergic kids up there. Nicole

Edited to add: Our 504 doesn't cover anything like this...it never occurred to me that something like this was going to come up......????

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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 8:11am
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Nicole, I can't believe the teacher is using this song for a graduation, and especially with a pa child in the class! How inconsiderate and thoughtless. Definitely I would get in touch with the teacher immediately and convince her to choose something more appropriate. If that doesn't work, go to the principal. Seriously, this is crazy!

Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 8:16am
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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 8:36am
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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 9:00am
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From a signing standpoint, using an S-sound would really stand out, and I'm guessing the word is repeated.
DS encountered something like this last year in school. In PE they were divided up into four groups. Two were peanut butter and jelly (can't remember the other two). Out of all four groups, guess which one DS was put into? I asked him if it bothered him. At first he said yes. He said other kids said something to him about it. But then it didn't bother him, so I didn't pursue my questions with the school. I was glad he was able to see beyond the word, and I didn't press it further.
I do think it's insensitive, but I guess I don't expect others who don't deal with it to think of things like this. It's really not as big to them as it is to us, nor will it ever be. They just don't have the perspective we do.
I do think this can be a powerful teaching moment either way--to learn that it's only a word and can't hurt her (there are other things she will probably sing about in coming years that she doesn't fully embrace either). OR to stand up for herself and tell a teacher that she can't sing this song. And perhaps with her age she needs your help with this--being there with her and talking to the teacher.
Learning her needs are worth standing up for is a good lesson IMO, and it's one to be had from this. She can see you model how to do it.

Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 9:38am
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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 10:48am
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I'd quickly order one of those PEANUT ALLERGIC/ANAPHYLAXIC t-shirts and have her wear it to graduation!!!!
I would then let my son know it's okay just to stand and not sing for the song(if he is upset and doesn't want to). Just like when people pray around us(like at a dinner or whatever) I don't pray but I sit quietly while they do. Because you all know who they'll be watching during the song...and I think standing silent will get through loud and clear!!(or putting her hands over her mouth or making a face etc.....) [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig and EE)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)
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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 11:00am
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How thoughtless. Why stop there? Why not sing "I love rat poison" or "I love loaded guns", or 'I love arsenic' 'I love bee stings'.
Come on, that is just wrong, wrong, wrong. Making a child sing about something they spend every day trying to avoid for fear of death. How thoughtless.
I would say something, if it were me. I bet everyone of those kids knows the ABC song or Mary had a Little Lamb. I'd ask for a substitution.
I'm sorry you've been put in such a situation...hugs...

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[b]Edited to add: Our 504 doesn't cover anything like this...it never occurred to me that something like this was going to come up......????[/b]
Could fall under psychological well being while at school...interesting.

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Posted on: Tue, 06/05/2007 - 11:09am
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I think that is one of the most ridiculous things I have heard of! My jaw just hit the floor as I listened to that song. I don't know your situation, but it sure sounds like this is just plain old mean on the teacher's part. There are soooooo many other songs they could sing in place of this one....why would they pick this one with peanut allergic children in the class? It makes no sense at all to me. I would be heart-broken if this happened to my DS who is also in Kindergarten. I think Chanda's response above about wearing a peanut allergic t-shirt and not singing (putting hand over mouth) is a great one. I think I'd also be confronting the teacher on this...I think this person has it coming!

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