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Posted on: Mon, 01/19/2004 - 12:09am
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As I posted last night, in either this thread, or sillyfeline's thread in Adults Living with PA, I have been to the Adults Living with PA part of the board twice before. I never even lurk and I've posted why.
Last night, I did spend time doing a search of the board to see what had happened. Thankfully, erik, you pointed me to the exact thread. Otherwise, what I had found was that sillyfeline was a great contributing member to our boards here (I actually believe anyone who posts is a great contributing member because we all have something to offer). But, as an PA adult, she ventured into a lot of discussions that she didn't even have to, in the Schools section and other places, just as the other PA adults here do. I think that's commendable.
Then, of course, I found out what was *wrong* and even I tried to help out in a section of the board that I never post in.
I certainly understand being depressed and depressed about the state of one's health. What I truly saw, in the interactions before I posted, was people that were genuinely concerned, and not all of them PA adults, but PA parents that do venture into that part of the board. Concerned, caring, encouraging, supportive and offering information.
I also saw the SNAP. Only recognize it because I go SNAP once in awhile too, as everyone knows [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
There was a time on the board when people felt that if you were going to vent and didn't really want advice that you *should* put - A Vent in the title of your thread. Since I see a lot of threads as vents, I never really agreed with that. But perhaps during the course of your posting you can put (not *should*) put, hey, I'm in a real bi*ch of a mood and I just have to get this off my chest. That way, at least people here could possibly understand that you really just need to get it off your chest and maybe not spend time and effort in posting stuff that you're really not open to hear (although I've found that with most threads where I'm venting, I actually get some really *good* advice that has lessened my stress re the situation).
I don't know. sillyfeline, I hope you will re-consider.
I don't understand your situation of course because I'm not you. But I do understand about feeling betrayed by your body health wise. You can always contact me off-the-board if you like, if you think I have anything that might help you.
Personally, and having just looked at the one thread last night in the Adults Living with PA section, I think it's a great lot of people in there and people are the same on that part of the board as they are everywhere else here - my old saying - support, encouragement, caring, concern, and information. Can't beat that.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 01/19/2004 - 4:38am
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by mae:
[b]great "link" Mommabear -or segue [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img][/b]
imagine that. [i]me.[/i] [b]segueing[/b]. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
(Guess we all have our strong points. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img] )

Posted on: Mon, 01/19/2004 - 8:24am
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Joined: 07/27/2003 - 09:00

[This message has been edited by deegann (edited February 09, 2005).]

Posted on: Mon, 01/19/2004 - 8:41am
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deegann, thank-you, I'll have to check it out then. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
While doing my web search for Anthony LaPaglia, no, it was for milk programs in the province (which apparently there are no more subsidies for, but that's another matter), I just did a general web search with the words Food for Learning since that is what the program is that the breakfast program I ran last year was associated with.
What's that got to do with anything? Well, in doing that search, I did come across the website link for another discussion board for people with food allergies, not POFAK, so there is definitely help on-line (or off).
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 11:46am
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Joined: 03/28/2001 - 09:00

i came back out of desperation. i wasn't reaching out to vent. i was looking for support that used to be here. i dont feel safe or supported as long as some people get enjoyment out of kicking people when theyre down. or repeating the same thing over or over angrily without listening. if anyone wants to be penpals fine but i just feel like speaking on these boards is inviting further attack. im sorry i just posted on adults tonight. im sorry i reached out at all. you're right; i used to post more when i was ok, but frankly, i think that was the only role i felt welcomed in. you win, erik. i'm gone.

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 12:14pm
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Joined: 09/21/2002 - 09:00

silly feline,
I've read all the posts and I can honestly say that I haven't seen people attacking you at all. In fact, they've tried to help but you seem to not want it. You've shot down every suggestion. People are reaching out and you keep pushing them away, only to then say that you feel like they are attacking you. I would say that they are more frustrated then anything.
It's too bad that you haven't found the help that you need here. But to be honest, if you are hurting and feel desperate, the internet is a bad place to look. I found that out when my son was diagnosed with Learning disabilities. I tried various sites, only to become more and more upset and depressed because some people were just so MEAN! (not here though, I've found nothing but support here-but that's me.)
My point is that if you aren't finding what you need here, maybe you need to start looking where you are for REAL people who you can turn to. I love my Net friends, but I can't live by having Net friendships alone. It's pretty isolating I think from my "real" life. Call a hotline, look for advocacy groups, etc. You'd be surprised how many adults are out there with allergies. Many of us can be as frustrated as you. (yep you read that right, I said "us" I'm PA too)
I hope you find what you need.

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 1:21pm
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Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

sillyfeline, I know some people are upset that you are lashing out here. But I feel someone who is hurting pretty badly here. I would like to offer you some support, but Im not sure what you need right now. If you need someone to talk to, or someone to listen to you, or anything else you think I can help you with, please email me at [email]nopnutmom@hotmail.com[/email].
Yes I am a pa parent but Ive also dealt with my own allergies my whole life. I would like to help you. Please hang in there. I hope your testing gives you some answers this weekend.

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 1:58pm
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Sillyfeline - my heart goes out to you...it really does. However, lashing out at people who are genuinely trying to help you isn't going to get you the support you are looking for. I have read all of the previous posts and everyone seems to want to help you. I am not as regular a poster as I would like to be, but I do "lurk" quite a bit and I have read a lot of Erik's posts. I have to say that he is, without fail, nothing but helpful. For some reason, you have chosen Erik as your "scapegoat" in this matter. I know we have never met in person, but from your posts, it is pretty clear that you are very depressed and need to get some help. Believe me, help is out there! I, too, suffer from depression, but I refuse to let it take over my life. I went and got help and I couldn't be happier now. God will never give you more than you can handle. Although life may seem unbearable now, you have to believe that it is for a greater purpose that you will someday come to know. I have found that when bad things happen in my life, I eventually find that it had to happen in order for something good to come about. You will be in my prayers and I hope you are able to find the help and support you truly need.

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 2:31pm
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Joined: 05/15/2001 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by B'sMom:
[b]For some reason, you have chosen Erik as your "scapegoat" in this matter. [/b]
Hi B's Mom,
It is fine.. she is having a rough time being allergic to everything and everyone has rough periods in their lives. I just hope she can find some help somewhere.
She seems at wit's end so it is natural to start lashing out in frustration. Cindy raised a thread in which several people list their multiple allergies so this may give her some hope as there are others suffering from multiple allergies and she is not alone (maybe talking to some of these people is the best suggestion as they are in the same boat).
Quote:Originally posted by Alternative to Mainstream:
[b]Simply re-raising for sillyfeline to show her she's not alone here on the board. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
p.s. B's Mom: thanks for your nice words
[This message has been edited by erik (edited January 21, 2004).]

Posted on: Tue, 01/20/2004 - 8:53pm
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Joined: 10/05/2002 - 09:00

Sillyfeline, I'm listening!!!!
Have you been in Chat lately!
I'll reraise it for you.
My e-mail is in my profile, please use it!!
PS- I think it is wounderful that everyone on the board is trying to help!
Please don't stop trying to help those in need.
Love this site


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