Bowling Party

Posted on: Thu, 06/03/2004 - 1:28pm
Concerned's picture
Joined: 02/27/2002 - 09:00

My 4 year old son has been invited to a Birthday Bowling Party. They will be having pizza (my son is allergic to milk also) and hotdogs before cake. I know there will be no handwashing after eating.

Even if they did wash there hands there is still the question of what could be on the balls from other kids.

My son also has a bad habit of picking his lips (not a good idea with allergies).

Would you let your child go?

Momma2boys - I saw in another post that your son had a contact reaction at a bowling alley - how bad was the reaction.

Thanks for your help.

Posted on: Thu, 06/03/2004 - 3:39pm
Nutternomore's picture
Joined: 08/02/2002 - 09:00

We had a birthday party for our severely anaphylactic PA son (Class 6 CAP-RAST, scored >100), at a bowling alley when he was 4, and it turned out to be a successful event.
Some things to consider:
1) I would check w/the bowling alley to see what they use to maintain the lanes. Learned here a few years ago that [i]some[/i] bowling alleys use peanut oil (or peanut oil-containing products) to maintain the lanes. Turned out not to be problem at our local alley...
2) We wiped down DS's ball, and had him use it exclusively when he bowled.
3) Would it be possible to influence the timing of events by checking in with parents of birthday child? For example, could the kids possibly bowl first, then eat?
Good luck...hope things work out for you.

Posted on: Thu, 06/03/2004 - 7:54pm
LaurensMom's picture
Joined: 05/23/2001 - 09:00

I have let Lauren go to bowling parties before - of course I remained on site. I just brought her own pizza/cake.
She had a fantastic time and I would let her do it again.

Posted on: Thu, 06/03/2004 - 9:47pm
KatiesMom's picture
Joined: 03/01/2000 - 09:00

Since your son is only 4 you are probably going to stay at the party so I would let him go. My PA daughter has bowled a lot and has never had a problem.

Posted on: Thu, 06/03/2004 - 9:56pm
esmom's picture
Joined: 07/25/2001 - 09:00

We went to a bowling party and the kid on the lane next to us was eating peanut butter
(yes, at the bowling alley) and it was getting all over the balls. I made up an excuse and we left and went to the toy store. It was to late at that point to do anything, it was all over the balls. [img][/img]

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 2:21am
momma2boys's picture
Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

Concerned, yes my son did have a contact reaction at his own bowling party. He had a lot of sneezing, burning, itchy eyes, and hives. It did go away after a shower and benedryl.
One thing to keep in mind though, he had bowled every Saturday in league at the same bowling alley. This was the only time he had a problem (of course, at his own birthday party [img][/img] )
I would bring his own cake, and just keep one ball aside for just him and clean it first.
I think the risk here is probably the same as going to any other public place. Do they sell anything there with p.b. ? I know ours sells candy bars with p.b. and other kids used his ball so who knows.
Good luck!

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 3:29am
Concerned's picture
Joined: 02/27/2002 - 09:00

Thanks so much for your answers.
I had planned on calling to find out if they serve PB. I didn't even think about peanut oil on the alleys (does it ever end?).
When you cleaned the ball did you use soap or just a wipe?
Thanks again.

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 4:01am
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

I have posted before about a horrible experience we had when the b-day child's mother (whom I basically decided not even to [b]try[/b] to be friends with anymore since she obviously was not getting it) passed out pb cracker sandwhiches while the kids were bowling.
Are you close enough with the child's mother that you could ask her if she would be willing to have the kids wash their hands before they bowl? It would really only have to be the kids in your ds's lane. (Probably about six?) With the dairy allergy on top of the pa, I think that would be best.
Yes, every public place has its risks. Maybe I just have an especially bad association with bowling parties after that fiasco. My dd has now been bowling there other times without any problem.
Good luck!

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 9:14am
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

Concerned, I posted last year when my son's class was having a bowling party. I got a lot of response that I found really helpful. One member though thought that I was putting my son into such a "high risk" situation that perhaps Children's Aid *should* be called on me! That's why I remember the whole bowling *issue* so well. Not because of anything that has happened with bowling, but because someone thought I was being negligent even considering letting my son attend the bowling party.
Obviously, and I understand this now (hope I did then), it was just another member's different comfort zone. They don't feel okay about their child going into bowling alleys and hey, who am I to say anything?
Anyway, my son ended up sick and didn't go. He did, however, get invited to a birthday party a couple of months later at the same bowling alley and we did attend. There was no hitch whatsoever.
I did ask a couple of questions (for example, I don't think peanut oil is used in Canada to oil the lanes, could be mistaken, but I checked to make sure that it wasn't at this particular alley) and also, we were the first round of people in the alley for the day and somehow the balls are washed each night (I don't know how, but I did ask if they were washed).
We had a great time! It went really well.
Recently my son had another bowling party through his school and because it was to an alley that he hadn't been to before, I did say that I would have to attend because I considered it "high risk" (any new situation to me would really be considered "high risk" first time 'round) but he ended up not going on that trip.
Although sadly momma2boys' son did have a reaction at his own birthday party at a bowling alley, what I also find important about her post is that her son did bowl for quite some time at the same alley without problem.
So, really, almost a matter of being in the wrong place at the wrong time (as far as residue), which IMHO, can happen any time you venture out your front door and into a public place.
I'm going to see if I can find the bowling party thread I posted last year because again, I remember it so well because the one member was so upset with the mere thought of my son going. Again, I do understand it is a comfort zone thing.
Best wishes! [img][/img]

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 9:18am
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

Here's the link to the bowling field trip I was talking about:-
(again, special thanks to nutternomore for showing me how to link [img][/img] )
Best wishes! [img][/img]

Posted on: Fri, 06/04/2004 - 9:26am
Sandy's picture
Joined: 05/27/2002 - 09:00

My son was allergic to milk also at an early age. I went to the bowling party, and wiped down the bowling ball. He also wore cotton gloves. I brought his own food and a treat.



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