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Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 2:34pm
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gvmom, The Red Rocket, I think (and Anna Marie can correct me, although I am older [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img] ) would be our old streetcars. Called "The Red Rocket". Sometimes in my posts you'll see me mention TTC if I'm not thinking and that means Toronto Transit Commission - basically, buses, streetcars, and subways.
Anna Marie, I think if there was any hint of a reaction that would have caused a quick escape, then we would have had a drive. It was more if we just felt the need because Jesse or both of us felt uncomfortable that I had said it was okay if we took transit out.
I do think it showed us that we could do it "this time" - I mean, if I couldn't smell the peanut sauce on the potatoes and the person was sitting right across from me at a small table, then it wasn't an overwhelming smell. So, that's why I'm saying "this time". The next situation we walk into, it might not be the same, or my guy might not react (or rather not react) the same. So, I kinda understand it's an event-by-event situation.
I just thought that everyone did try really well, especially since our friendship with the woman with the children (not her SIL) is just really new, or relatively new. For us even to be included in the family celebration after the bowling alley was a bonus, KWIM?
Something I was thinking about to-day though and again, not a big deal. But the friends of our's that were driving us - they both had some of the potatoes with peanut sauce. I can't read minds but I think they kinda scoped out how Jesse was dealing with it period, but I don't know. Can I say I just would have preferred, without sounding really over-the-top (or perhaps it is) that they hadn't had any, just in case?
Then, the Mother was feeding the baby at some point during the evening and he's about 20 months old, maybe 19 months old and she was feeding him the mashed potatoes with peanut sauce. It's almost one of those moments where you want to say - did you know blah blah blah, but given their ethnic cooking differences and just the situation itself, I didn't want to say anything. I mean, the child has probably eaten the peanut sauce before anyway.
Then, darned if he doesn't toddle over, with a mouthful, right to Jesse. Now, Jess didn't know what was in the wee guy's mouth, but I did, and I just watched to make sure everything was okay.
I guess really it's just knowing when you need to recognize what may be a "high alert" situation and even though I had hawk eyes, we had such a fantastic time, it was well worth it. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Oh, and at the bowling alley, Ember was rather reluctant to have any birthday cake. I told her that it was okay. Again, really trying to find that balance where in some situations she can eat stuff around her brother that she wouldn't be able to eat at home period and getting myself to accept that it is *his* allergy, not her's. I didn't have any cake.
Had a whole other thought there that just blipped out of my head. However.
Oh. I think this does depend on the age of the child and also the reaction history. To-date, touch wood, Jesse hasn't had any reactions via contact or inhalation.
Thanks for the continuing support. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 10:16pm
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Cindy, I am so happy that you had a good time and everything worked out.

Posted on: Mon, 03/27/2006 - 5:24am
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Quote:Originally posted by gvmom:
[b]Hey AnnaMarie -- what is Red Rocket?[/b]
Sorry. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img]
Yes, they are the old --- very old -- streetcars.

Posted on: Mon, 03/27/2006 - 6:53am
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I miss the old, very old, streetcars. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Mon, 03/27/2006 - 12:21pm
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I don't miss the old (very old) subway cars though. Lights flickering on the Yonge Street line. I was always afraid I'd get stuck in the tunnel. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 05/07/2007 - 12:50am
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Re-raising because of Adrienne's perspective on social occasions with food.

Posted on: Tue, 03/21/2006 - 10:56am
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Tough call. I think it all depends on how invested you are in going back to the birthday boy's house. Most likely, what we would do, is just go to the bowling part. If that is going to be a couple hours with the kids hanging out, bowling and having fun, I would figure that my guys would be covered. Do the kids know the details yet? I'm wondering if they might even be fine with the one part, and missing the food part at the home.

Posted on: Tue, 03/21/2006 - 12:04pm
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Have you told Jesse about the food? How does he feel about going? I know he has had some anxiety in the past about being around peanuts, so if he is going to be uncomfortable, then I would thank them but pass on the home portion of the party.
If he really wants to go, well then I would probably try to find a way to make it work safely for him to go. He has had a rough month and it would be good for him to go have some fun.
If it works out that you can't go, at least they are doing part at the bowling alley so they won't miss the whole thing.
I would definitely give him some say in the matter.

Posted on: Tue, 03/21/2006 - 12:10pm
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hiya,
I usually try to stay clear of some of the child conversations and topics, since, I'm not a mom and have a different perspective. But, I did have a thought here.
This might be a good opportunity to show your son (he's 10 right?) how to enjoy the company of others even if PN foods are present. As he gets older, in teens and college, I think it's important for him to have the skill of having to deal with eating before an event and not eating at the event, but still going to have fun with his friends. That's really the point, to be with friends.
In my teens up to now there are numerous social occasions where there is food I can't eat or don't feel comfortable eating, but I want to go out and be social...so I eat before or bring my own food. It took a while to get used to and confident and comfortable fielding questions...but the skill comes with time. In a way, I do still feel left out, but it rolls off my back and I don't give it a second thought. When you are an adult, you don't make your own cupcake to bring, ya know? You just go without...and it's no big deal. Since you'll be there, you can walk him through it and keep an eye out for any dangers.
Good luck,
Adrienne
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Posted on: Wed, 03/22/2006 - 1:25am
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Wow, thank-you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
The kids did know that we were invited back to the house afterward.
I spoke with Jesse about it last night and at one point he said that he didn't want to go and then he changed his mind again. I guess, for him, he's trying to sort through it, because really, it will be the first time we've gone some place that hasn't been safe for him in such an obvious way (the pb sauce).
Then, I'm thinking, well, maybe they won't make the pb sauce - that it's just a possibility.
Adrienne, I appreciated your post (and think perhaps you *should* enter more of the children's threads [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] ) because yes, he does have to learn how to deal with this type of situation at some point in his life.
If he was wee, I'd say no. But he is 10. He is cautious. He is careful. At school now, he doesn't sit at the "peanut free" table and if a classmate does happen to have pb, he does have to decide whether he's going to change seats or not.
If I wasn't going, I would say no. But since they'll be two pair of hawk eyes there, and perhaps even three with my daughter's, I think I'll just make sure I plan an escape route, if we need one. KWIM?
But I will check with Jess again as the day gets closer because if it is something that is going to make him anxious or uncomfortable, he really doesn't need that right now either.
He's funny last night. The birthday boy is putting M&M Star Wars' figures in the loot bags. Jesse asked if it was okay for him to keep the figure (he's such a huge Star Wars' fan) even though he's allergic to real M&M's. I said, of course it is honey, if you're comfortable with it - it's not like your allergic to the M&M guys themselves.
Then you stop and think what queer things pass through our PA children's minds that didn't pass through ours. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
But no, definitely right on, momma2boys, I'll check with Jess as we get closer to the day. Apparently, we're on like a special invite list for back to the house to begin with since it will be mostly the child's Father's family there (it's the Portugeuse half that has the pb sauce on potatoes - that one I still really need to see [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img] ).
Ember and I discussed it last night and she agreed that she wouldn't be eating there either.
Many thanks and best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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