Birthday Cake

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 2:32am
Heather's picture
Joined: 10/08/2006 - 09:00

I was just wondering - when your child is invited to a birthday party, do you send him/her with his/her own cake or let him/her eat cake from a bakery?

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 2:53am
stine's picture
Joined: 07/28/2000 - 09:00

my son doesn't eat the cake and he knows why. He, luckly for me, knows there is a chance he will become sick and chooses not to eat the cake. After we get home he is allowed a special treat if he wants. So far he has never gotten upset about it.

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 5:35am
Joanne's picture
Joined: 02/22/1999 - 09:00

There's some posting on this topic on a thread I started on Living With PeanutAllergy called "Birthday Party--dropoff or stay?".
My child brings his own egg-free, peanut-free, nut-free cupcake. He's pretty matter of fact about it--he's almost seven.

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 5:52am
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

I actually do let my peanut and tree nut allergic daughter eat birthday cake, as long as it is just a plain type of cake. I do realize that we are taking a risk of cross contamination, and I am sure I would change my mind if she were ever to suffer an allergic reaction from this practice. I feel that I am very cautious in terms of reading labels and always having the epi-pen with her. But, I also think I tend to err more on the side of trying to let her eat what other kids are eating, than a lot of the parents who post here do. Believe me, I'm almost afraid to post this for fear of what others might think or say, but this is my comfort level at this time.

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 5:53am
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Heather, definitely check out the thread Joanne started re birthday parties. My son has only been invited to a couple of birthday parties and I think I've even mentioned that I think it has to do with his PA because he is a very popular child but I think the parents of afraid of dealing with PA at a party. It's hard enough to deal with that many kids at a party as it is. Anyway. I've been fortunate because the Tim Horton's I order cakes from for special occasions is "peanut free". Also, I have had a Dairy Queen cake made for a special occasion and requested that it be "peanut free" and they told me how they would ensure that by making it on a completely different surface, etc. So, when he went to one child's party last year, the mother planned to buy a Dairy Queen cake and she simply made the same request. The two parties he has attended this year were at my best friend's and she has educated herself really well re PA. She bakes her own birthday cakes and makes sure to read all the labels of everything right down to the decorations. In school this past year when there were parties, especially Valentine's Day, a few parents made cakes and since my son is in a "peanut free" classroom, we are sent reminders when we have to send something in. So, so far, he's been able to eat other people's cakes without incident. Are you able to speak with the person who is having the party and see if they're baking the cake or what bakery they're getting it from? Maybe that would put you more at ease. But I also notice that it is within a LOT of PA parents' "comfort zones" to have their child carry their own cupcake or treat with them. It's what you feel comfortable with. I know the two women really well that my son went to the parties of their kids, but I must say that I did stay regardless. I guess it depends on how well you know the parent and if you could approach them about the cake question. Then decide what YOU feel comfortable with your child doing.

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 7:34am
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Anonymous (not verified)

CaliforniaMOM - I agree with what you say...although my daughter is too young to be going to birthday parties. BUT, we take the same kind of attitude towards eating out, etc. I am a very cautious person, but I carry the EpiPen and we can't live our lives in a bubble. I think that when she starts going to bday parties I will check with the bakery or person making the cake and then go from there...I want to make her feel as normal as possible! Are you in So. any chance??

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 2:49pm
rilira's picture
Joined: 11/11/1999 - 09:00

My daughter always takes her own cupcake to parties. Even before she was diagnosed with TN/PN allergy she wasn't a huge cake fan. The bakery cakes were too sweet for her.
Kathryn and California Mom I am in Ca. also. I live in North San Diego County.

Posted on: Fri, 07/28/2000 - 3:35pm
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

Hi Kathryn, I am glad to know that I am not alone in my feelings about this type of issue. I am in Northern California, by the way. I have been thinking more about this issue and want to add some information: My daughter was severely allergic to dairy as an infant and toddler, so I always had to provide her own cake and snacks for almost the first three years of her life. We didn't introduce peanuts or tree nuts until she was almost 3 1/2, so only found out she was allergic at that point. By then we had already made such a big deal about the fact that she could now eat birthday cake, etc. that I just didn't feel I could take it away from her due to (what seems to me to be) the very slight risk of cross contamination. So far the only severe reaction my daughter has had to pn was when she ate actual pb (which was "hidden" inside a pretzel). I may feel quite differently if she had a history of severe reactions to very minor exposure.

Posted on: Sat, 07/29/2000 - 4:37am
katiee's picture
Joined: 05/09/2001 - 09:00've found a peanut free Tim Hortons??? I would love to hear more about it. We live in Ottawa and to my knowledge, there is NO Tim Hortons which is peanut free in our area (I thought none of them were, anywhere). I would love to approach Tim Hortons and see if there is a possibility of opening one in the future. As it is now, Wade can only eat home made cakes and it would be great if there were a chance of getting him a "safe" store bought cake!
Katiee (Wade's mom)

Posted on: Sat, 07/29/2000 - 7:10am
PattyR's picture
Joined: 04/12/2002 - 09:00

My son is going to a sleepover birthday party tonight. I will send him with his own cake just in case. The mom is a friend of mine so I am hoping she has made a safe cake. If not, we'll be prepared. I have in the past let me son have bakery cakes where I can read the ingredients but have stopped doing this since we did have a reaction to a contaminated bakery cookie.

Posted on: Sat, 07/29/2000 - 10:26am
latymom's picture
Joined: 05/21/2000 - 09:00

I let my daughter eat birthday cake at partis. The Moms are usually nice enough to keep the boxes so I can check the ingredients myself. Never had a problem yet, and my daughter has been to lots of parties involving cake.....and she's only 2.9yrs! California Mom, never be afraid of saying how you feel, some Moms may do things differently, but we still are all in the same boat. I enjoy hearing different sides to allows me to create my own opinions. One things for sure....we all love our kids and want to do right by them or we wouldn't be here!


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