Bday party place doesn\'t allow food brought from home

Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 4:40am
hollys2funboys's picture
Joined: 06/12/2007 - 09:00

Hi everyone,

I have an almost 4 year old pa/tna son who has just been invited to a birthday party at one of those indoor playground places. Apparently, they have birthday packages that include pizza, juice, and cake. I phoned the place and asked where the food was from and assured me that everything was peanut-free. So I called the bakery - they said that the cake will be nut-free, but that they have nuts in their bakery (of course!) and even though they will make every effort to stay away from nuts, they can't guarantee 100% that there will be no cross contamination. Okay, I expected that response. Now the pizza place claims to be nut-free too, but when I asked if the employees wear gloves while assembling the pizzas, I was told "no". The employees (likely teenagers) bring in their own food/snacks for their breaks, so it's possible that an employee consume a peanut butter sandwich or chocolate bar full of nuts, then casually rinse (or not wash at all) his or her hands, and then assemble the pizza that my child will eat. I can't get this scenario out of my head.

I'm not taking this too far, am I? I can't trust others to be responsible for the well-being and life of my child.

Okay, so we decided to bring a snack and cupcake for our child, but the problem is, the indoor playground is dead-set against it! They will not allow it, saying that "no one has ever had an allergic reaction up to now." Or maybe those will allergies have just been lucky?

My child is entitled to bring in his own cupcake at least without being denied access to the party!

What do you think of all this?

I'm interested in your responses.


Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 6:24am
lj's picture
Joined: 01/26/2006 - 09:00

You are certainly entitled to bring your own cupcake. I wouldn't have even asked. I ignore the "posted signs" if I see them about bringing in my own food and have never been questioned. Most likely a kid will be working the party anyway. If they question it, show them your Epipen and say that your child's allergies are life-threatening. I would raise a big stink if they objected to it and I'm usually not that kind of person.
I would not worry so much about the prep of the pizza and what the workers ate before prepping it. I would drive myself crazy if I did that. I worry more about the filthy things and possibly cross-contaminated toys and bouncy rides the kids touch in those places. Bring lots of wipes. However, we've gone to several of those and never have had a problem.
If you're dead set against it, don't go. Ultimately, it's your call.

Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 7:44am
PAMomInPA's picture
Joined: 04/04/2006 - 09:00

I've been to a couple of My Gym parties and I didn't have any trouble bringing food. Of course, I didn't ask, I just brought it but my son sat right up front with it and no one said anything to me. I would have loved to see them try LOL.
I wouldn't worry about the pizza too much either. If your comfort zone is that tight (which is your choice), why bother calling? Unless the food is made by machines in a peanut free factory, there is always that slight possibility of contamination.

Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 2:02pm
cathlina's picture
Joined: 06/29/2001 - 09:00

For heaven sakes. The American Disabilties Act requires that they accommodate this. Tell them you are considering filing a civil rights complaint if they continue to deny you this accommodation. And see if that does get them off their duffers.

Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 4:53pm
gw_mom3's picture
Joined: 02/14/2000 - 09:00

Originally Posted By: cathlinaFor heaven sakes. The American Disabilties Act requires that they accommodate this. Tell them you are considering filing a civil rights complaint if they continue to deny you this accommodation. And see if that does get them off their duffers.
Well...the OP is in Canada. Do they have a similar law?

Posted on: Sun, 03/02/2008 - 12:32am
CorinneM1's picture
Joined: 06/20/2002 - 09:00

I am in line with most of the posters here. My son has attended many functions like this, and we have been okay with pizza, but we have always provided his own safe treat for birthday parties. Oh and that's *all* birthday parties. I have yet to find a bakery that doesn't have nuts in facilities around us. We have never had an issue with bringing in our own treat--and like the others said...teenage kids are working these parties. They are far from qualified (or motivated for that matter, from what I have seen) to act as the food police.

Posted on: Sun, 03/02/2008 - 4:07am
hollys2funboys's picture
Joined: 06/12/2007 - 09:00

Thank-you for your responses!
Why did I even bother asking about bringing in my own food? I'm just going to do it, that's it. What can they do? Kick us out?
About the pizza ... I really have a problem allowing my son to eat anything prepared by anyone but me or my husband. I have seen too many people "forget" or they just don't get it when it comes to the severity of this allergy (everyone from negligent/ignorant/uninformed family and friends to restaurant employees).
Anyway, thanks again. Living with this is a work in progress.

Posted on: Sun, 03/02/2008 - 4:14am
Krusty Krab's picture
Joined: 04/20/2007 - 09:00

Yes, I would also just bring my own food. I really wouldn't think twice about it either.

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