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Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2003 - 6:31am
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I just wanted to know how many of you get babysitters, other than family, and trust them to know what to do if your child has a reaction? My kids have never had a babysitter other than family and I am kind of hesitant to try a teenager. We do live right down the road from the hospital, but I don't know if I am comfortable with anyone else.

Jan

Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2003 - 6:46am
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I actually have trusted some sitters more than some family memebers with dd and the allergy issue. I really do not have any family around to sit anyway. So, I use adult friends, some of whom I trust more than others, and we swap. Some I trust implicitly to do exactly as I say with food and even to know on their own what is basically okay. These are 2 playgroup moms who have known dd since before the allergies so have grown into it with us.
A friend or two of mine and dh have occasionally wathced dd in similar situations where we swap, and I have usually(if not always) fed dd and sent a safe snack and made it very clear that is all the food she gets. I put in in the light of us teaching our dd to bring her own snacks as opposed to lacking trust in their judgement.
I have found it far *easier* to leave her with the occasional paid teen sitter or a nanny borrowed from a neighbor. Since they are being paid to do it and not doing us a favor, they are less weird about taking very specific direction and really listen and care about the allergy. I find the other mom friends feel like they know how to care for children and even though they do what I ask, are a bit put off by the specific directions.
Just my experience. The last sitter I used(and will try to groom into a more lasting relationship) was only 14, but I spoke with her mom and she was very comfortable with me teaching the epipen. The dd was shy, but listened and definately did what I said with food. Was really nice and my 3yo dd liked ahving a young sitter. Though bedtime was another thing...LOL! Her mom is home when she sits(ther is a younger sibling at her home) and would assist in a crisis and we stick close by at present with a cell phone. Just nice to go out alone for abite. I also leave a highlighted list of my playgroup mom friends as a person to call if there is some quesion or emergency(of any kind). We all live in a close neighborhood, so it is great for that.
If I live in a remote setting, I would have a harder time with having sitters, especially younger ones. becca
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Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2003 - 6:49am
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I think that I would be leery of having a teenager babysit for my kids in any event, but because of DD's PA I would never have a teenager sit. No matter how mature, I just don't trust that they would have the presence of mind to know what to do in the event of an allergic emergency. We don't use sitters that often, but when we do we have adults. The ones we have used most recently, and whom I feel most comfortable with, are two teachers who taught my DD last year in pre-kindergarten, at a school that was peanut-free, BTW.

Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2003 - 7:50am
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I have had a early teenager (13) sit with my kids in my home. I feel just fine doing this because there in nothing in my home that ds cannot have and nothing to cause him to have a reaction.
Although we don't go out much without the kids, when we do, we feel incredibly comfortable with her. It also helps that she lives 3 doors down.
She's very responsible and great with all 3 of our boys.
Last time we used her she actually called us on our cell to tell us that all of the boys were fine and had a snack and drink before bed and were sleeping (at our request). She just wanted to let us know in case we were worrying!!! She's really great!!
She also babysits for her neighbors across the street on a regular basis. They have 4 daughters. Ages: 5 and 2 (they had triplet girls)
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Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2003 - 11:05am
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i ditto what becca said. i rarely use babysitters (i'm so overcautious in so many ways) BUT if and when i do use one i prefer an enthusiastic, paid, unrelated teenager to a know-it-all, disbelieving, favor-doing relative. our relatives already believe they know better than i do about my own children. the few teens i have tried have been so willing to take direction and do things in whatever way i ask. besides all that, not one single relative of ours has ever offered to come to our home to watch our kids. they are more than happy to offer to watch them in their nut-filled homes with their uncovered inground swimming pools, etc.. (which i would never agree to).
teenagers, imo, especially if they are responsible and like children, are willing to do things on whatever terms you ask. and, like someone else said, my house is already peanut-free so the chance of something allergy-related happening is really unlikely as long as nothing else is brought in. i wish i could find the perfect teenager in my neighborhood to have over on a regular basis. the kids would have fun, i know my requests would be more likely to be honored and respected and i'd feel much better about being away from the house temporarily.
i think part of the reason i feel so strongly about teens vs. other babysitters is because i so thoroughly loved babysitting from the time i was 13 through college. (actually, i still occasionally babysit for brand new parens that need a night out...nothing like getting that new baby "fix" every now and then....). i was very responsible, came ready to give the kids a fun night and the parents a big night off. if there was time at the end of the evening - after baths were given and kids tucked into bed and read to - i would pick up the house and clean the kitchen and all the dishes. i loved impressing the families in my neighborhood that depended on me. they had sweet children too which is part of why i have always looked so forward to being a mom (which, by the way, has been much harder than the occasional babysitting job. haha).
i think God should send all of us the dream babysitter (teen or otherwise) since we've had to deal with all this food allergy stuff for so long. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] i'm sure we could all use the break and a little r & r.

Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2003 - 12:01am
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Ah, the one thing lacking in any sitter I have had is the picking up!
Off the subject, sorry.
I also, as Joeybeth said, did tons of babysitting from the age of 10! I started as a mother's helper, and did it on my own as I got older. Took a babysitting course and learned first aid and choking procedures, etc... I was very responsible as well. I believe that those truly interrested in sitting are eager to please. I look for the teen who shows enthusiasm, rahter than the parents who promote the child. I want to be sure the person *wants* to babysit. I really think you can find good sitters. It is hard these days though with kids so busy with extracurricular stuff.
Another good point raised was the safe home thing. I always leave my dd's snack for the eve., and there is a box of tried and true safe snacks we point out, and we have a nut free home. Some unknown things(stuff dh and I eat and have not called on and some egg ingredients, though, so we only allow from "the box").
Honestly, the risks of injuries, general choking, other accidents are so much greater in our own homes than are the allergy risks. I just try to put it into that perspective. becca

Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2003 - 3:58am
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Thank you for all of your feedback. I know what you mean about relatives thinking they know more about your kids than you do. I swear they think that pa is some kind of joke or that I am looking for my son to get some attention. What a laugh, if they only knew how much time I spend researching this topic and protecting him from it.
Anyway, I will consider a teenager as a babysitter. What safer place can there get than in his own home if he only eats the same foods he always eats. I, too, used to babysit all the time in my teenage years. Thanks.
Jan

Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2003 - 5:08am
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becca:
yeah..the picking up would be a great perk to having a good babysitter but i think you and i and everyone else here would probably just settle on a really messy house when we got home as long as the kids were safe and sound and everyone had a good time. sometimes you just have to settle for a messy house. as pa parents (and parents in general) the condition of the house is usually the last concern. [img]/peanut/boards/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]
also...like someone else mentioned....i have also discovered that the babysitters i've used who were primarily promoted by their mother (and didn't take the initiative themselves) have been the worst. finding a teen who genuinely seems to connect to children and is truly responsible would be the way to go. if they aren't nearly as great as momma described (examples: they stay on the phone the whole time, have on their coat and are waiting by the door when you get home, or the kids report they watched tv and ignored them the whole time) the it probably wasn't their idea to babysit in the first place.
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Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2003 - 5:52am
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Well, I have a teenager, but she is my neice. She knows about Aidan's allergy, and we only keep PNfree items in the house. Here is what we do before we go out for the night. We prepare a meal for our son and/or leave her money and a number to order a pizza from a place that we know is safe for him. Most of the time we do the meal thing.
All snacks that he can have for the night are laid out as options on the countertop. She does not bring any of her own food in the house, and we have not had a problem.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:32am
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NO. Our daughter HAS anaphylaxed in our "safe" home. Her history has been one of astonishingly rapid progression to grade 4 symptoms.
So, no. I wouldn't trust a teenager (no matter how responsible-- I [i]was[/i] one of those teenagers...) with keeping a level enough head if the unthinkable were to happen. The difference, perhaps, is that we [i]know[/i]-- I mean really [i]know[/i]-- that it can happen. Even in our house.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:38am
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We have 3 babysitters. They are all wonderful teens. I do show them how to use the epi pen and how to respond to hives or any symptoms. We usually do not venture too far from home and always have our cell phones.
I also remind them that they are not allowed to bring any food with them. I ask them what they would like to have around to snack on and provide it. I also ask them to wash their hands before coming and to avoid eating any nuts/peanuts that day.
One of the girl's mom is a nurse and she helps me remind her daughter about this and the other two are sisters and we're friends with their parents. They have handled everything wonderfully.
Corvalis Mom, how did your daughter have a reaction at your house? I always feel like DS is really safe here, that's kind of creepy. Can you tell us what happened?

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:46am
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This is a really sore subject with me. Dd is 11 now. When she was two years old we had a babysitter who snuck milk in the house and gave it to dd, knowing dd was allergic to it. Then she would throw the empty carton in the trash outside, so I would not know. I worked Mondays and Thursdays. For some reason, dd would be wheezing when I got home. She only wheezed Mondays and Thursdays. After the 4th time, dd told me that Elena was bringing in milk, giving it to her, and throwing the carton away outside. I could not believe this. Dd was actually 2 years 8 months at the time. I said you mean "soy milk". Dd said no, "milk in a box with a cow on it". Since I did not keep regular milk in the house, there was nowhere else dd could have come up with this. I lived in an apartment and the neighbors later confirmed that they had seen the babysitter giving foods which were not allowed. I cringe still thinking about it although it was 9 years ago. I took dd to the pediatrician and he reported it to the police. By the way, the babysitter had great references. There is just no way to know.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 5:38am
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No.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 5:44am
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The short answer is that we never determined what the trigger for that reaction was. We had lived entirely nut and egg-free for a long time, however, so it wasn't anything that we deliberately/knowingly fed her. Besides, I made probably fourteen HOURS of phone calls in the week after her rxn. It was ultra-trace amounts of something carried into the house by one of us. (DD and I had not left the house in over 24 hr and no food had been brought in either during that time. DH wasn't 'sneaking' any contraband foods at work, either.)
So this is why I say that I now know that I can't ever really be in a place mentally where I think "not here." I know better.
(Obviously, not all kids are anaphylaxers like DD. Allergist 1 concluded that some kids CAN experience idiopathic anaphylaxis, and [i]maybe[/i] this is what happened. But anyway, she almost died and it took less than ten minutes from the onset of symptoms to get there.)
With that kind of Hx, I couldn't [i]in good conscience[/i] turn DD over to a teen sitter. The ONLY three people I am comfortable with are my mother (a retired teacher who had PA kids in her classroom and has finally come round after years), our neighbor who is a cath lab nurse (and unafraid of epinephrine or 911), and my best friend, who has known DD since she was 3. They all have an appreciation for just what a hair-trigger DD lives under.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 6:11am
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My daughter does have anaphylaxis (vomiting, hives, excessive sneezing and nasal drainage) to eggs. Two episodes, both induced in a food challenge and both recovered with benadryl only, since we found her FA when she was 12 mos. old, now 5. Other than the 2 induced anaphylactic episodes, I am happy to say we have had only to suffer through about 10 or so "mystery hives". I am sorry to hear about your episode. I can't stand not knowing where hives come from not alone less what you suffered thru. DD is allergic to peanuts too but, not anaphylactic to them. Has passed a food challenge to them 100%, but, believe it or not, gets hives if PB touches her. So, we live without them. Now, I am freaked to leave them with a sitter. You are right, FA kids are never 100% safe. I only leave them with a teen (daughter of a nurse I work with) on rare occasions but, maybe I shouldnt. Her Mom does have her wash her hands and wear no lotion etc. before she comes over. **** !

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 8:30am
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I have a peanut and milk allergic 4 yr old son. I let a close family friend babysit who knew all about my son's allergies and what to do about them, or so I thought. I went through the whole checklist of what not to give to eat, brought all of his foods from home, explained that was the only food he was to have, and explained what to do in emergency. I was only gone for 1 1/2 hrs, walked in the door to see my 2 yr old son eating a chocolate chip cookie!! I almost passed out from ANGER!!! I ran over, grabbed the cookie from his mouth, gave him Benadryl-since no sypmtoms had started yet, had some choice words with the "family friend", and ended up sleeping in my son's room that night. Thank goodness nothing ever happened, but I completely trusted this person and what a letdown! Needless to say, I ONLY trust my mother, who dealt with my sisters tree nut allergies for the past 32 year and was a school teacher. Not to say that teenagers aren't trustworthy, just PLEASE be very careful who you let babysit!

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Posted on: Thu, 10/12/2006 - 2:35am
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I also will only have my mom and dad babysit 10yo(PA), 5 & 3yo (nonPA).
I wouldn't even have my MIL watch them simply because she hasn't taken the time to educate herself like my family has.
So I think my answer would be NO.
Overwhelmed- I reread your posts and you have a point. I bet there are teenagers who would "get it" more than my in-laws do-for instance. Sounds like her mom (and you)have educated her on the issue and that she is someone you trust.
In your situation- maybe I would reconsider my answer. DD is 10 now so I have thought about it (but would have never when she was younger)
But no matter if it were my mother or someone else, I won't go more than 30 minutes away from dd and I ALWAYS have my cell phone.
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Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 11:15am
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hi there
we are pretty picky -- grandma, aunt and one outside babysitter who is 25 and was a nanny to 5 kids for 2 years. I just feel that since we have never used the epi and have no idea how we would respond what could i expect from a babysitter so i choose not to use teenagers because i feel like it is asking too much for them to be responsible for such a big thing. Just our choices and opinions. my son is only 5 1/2 if that makes any difference.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:07pm
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I have one friend that babysits fairly often for me...She (my friend) has severe allergies to corn and shellfish, so she knows all about the danger of food allergy and how to use the epi...I have also discussed the PA with my sister in law and another friend...and I would be comfortable leaving my daughter with them in an emergency situation...I have talked to both about the allergy, and they both watched the video "It Only Takes One Bite" from the FAAN website...

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:07pm
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My babysitters are in college...one happened to grow up with a best friend that carried the Epipen. She has witnessed her friend administering it to herself, and was trained to help her friend.
My other babysitter has two parents that are doctors and I trained her w/ epipen, she was comfortable with it.
And my third one is a lifeguard with professional rescuer CPR/first aid training -- and she just got the updated training which included Epipen administration.
I have their FA ACtion Plan posted in the cabinet plus a yellow sign on the fridge with their allergies, emergency contacts etc.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:23pm
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[b]but do you ever let someone babysit kids?[/b]
No. Well, I do let DH watch them while I'm working out in the yard on the weekends, or I let him take the kids someplace without me. Somehow I don't think that counts. I have almost had to fire him a couple times though.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:54pm
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We've been out on a grand total of about six dates in four years [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] We usually only trust my parents (very good about it!!), but we've also used a few people from Sam's daycare who very much "get it" and are used to our situation. I teach college aged students and have gotten several unsolicited offers, but I'm just not up to trusting someone without some whopping credentials, KWIM?

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 1:01pm
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i used to have the babysitter problem but now my oldest daughter is 15 and i have a built-in babysitter who has been raised around her two little sisters' PA for 10 years now. i never imagined she'd be responsible enough to take care of her sisters, or that they'd all get along well enough one day to spend a few hours together without me, but she does a great job.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 1:10pm
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It totally depends on your comfort zone, of course . . . One thing that generally makes baby sitting better than preschool is that they're at your house, which (I assume) is a peanut free zone. So, somebody you trust with some special instructions (just in case) should be just fine. BTW, I know some teenagers who would react to a crisis sitation better than some of the doctors I know. . . .
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Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 10:33pm
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Our babysitter is his former daycare teacher who is training to be a nurse. She is the only one we really feel comfortable with.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 10:41pm
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Looks like I am the minority here. I have two babysitters. One is a neighbor's daughter who is 15. She has been trained in how to use epipen. She has also taken a babysitter certification class that the local hospital gives. We also set out my pa son's food for the evening and she knows not to give him anything else. As a back-up this girl's mom is always home while she babysits for us and the mom is also trained in epi pen and emergency action plan. She always babysits at our peanut-free home. We have not had one problem.
Our other babysitter is our oldest daughter who is 19. She is away at college most of the year now, but when she is home, we try to take advantage of it.
I think it is possible to find a babysitter, but also think you have to be comfortable or you will not enjoy your night out. Good luck!
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Posted on: Thu, 06/08/2006 - 12:40am
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So far, we have not had any babysitters, but we are moving back to the States soon and will be near family and friends. My sister and my best friend have already watched the video "It Only Takes One Bite" and have read The Parent's Guide to Food Allergies and will read How to Manage Your Child's Life Threatening Food Allergies. I also want them to read about asthma and then I will let them babysit. (They actually volunteered to read any books I wanted them to read, so they could understand food allergies better.)
My best friend gave me my Epi years ago when we were late teens/early 20's and I was stung by a bee.
I trust my sister and my friend to take excellent care of my kids. I don't trust teens, since I have 4 kids, one with asthma and LTFA, one with asthma and one with GERD. I think it's too much responsibility for a teenager.

Posted on: Thu, 06/08/2006 - 6:02am
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We really rely on my mother. Unfortunately, we don't have any other family members who have learned (or wanted to learn) enough info about dd's PA and TNA.
So right now, we only trust my mother to watch dd.

Posted on: Thu, 06/08/2006 - 7:04am
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We only let dh's parents sit our kids. We would also let my sil watch too, but it hasn't been needed yet. The kids are always kept at our house. We stress that the Epi-pen goes with ds, even on walks around the block. We prepare the kid's food ahead of time. We check all food brought into the house too.
We issue all the safety warnings each and every time they are sat (which ends up being about 3 times a year). Sometimes fil has a short memory!
I don't know if I could ever trust anyone else - even if we didn't have to deal with the allergies. A little paranoid, I know...
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Posted on: Thu, 06/08/2006 - 7:18am
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This is a comfort zone issue. DD is 10. When we had a sitter (older teen) for her when she was younger, the sitter was Infant/Child CPR trained, practiced w/ the epi at our house and was not allowed to bring outside food over. Often DD was fed before she came, or eating dinner I prepared. We left safe snacks. All has been well. Lately we have dropped both girls off at a friend's- who have matched age girls. They've had the whole talk- DD brings epi and Benadryl. I read labels (for stuff they might eat) and/or bring safe snacks. We have had no problem. DD is trained "when in doubt, don't eat." As she gets older- we have to let her manage the allergy (slowly) on her own- so she can take care of herself.

Posted on: Thu, 06/08/2006 - 9:08pm
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We have several teenage girls who babysit for us. I ask them to not bring any food with them and to avoid eating nuts the day they are coming.
There is no food in my house that could hurt DS, so I am okay with the babysitters. They all know how to use EPI (one girl's mother is a nurse. They are great girls and are very responsible!

Posted on: Fri, 06/09/2006 - 12:31am
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Now that we live near family, we only use relatives, almost always in our peanut-free home.
But when we lived 2,00 miles away from family I had an assortment of babysitters. Most common was my friends (we swapped babysitting time). Several dealt with FA at home, and all knew DS from birth and were full aware of his allergy and the epi-pen.
One of my friends had a daughter who babysat. She was raised in an FA household (she wasn't allergic, but her father and siblings were). She only watched DS in our peanut-free house, and as the odlest of 5, was very responsible. She also only watched my kids when I was no more than 5 minutes away from the house.
We also had one other adult babysitter. She was a daycare provider, had experience with FA, was CPR certified, was a mother herself (her son had astham as well). She was expensive, so we didn't use her much, but she was really worth the money when we needed her.

Posted on: Fri, 06/09/2006 - 2:40am
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We searched for a long time for a sitter we could trust. It took about 1 year. I still can't believe our luck. She is a women who has worked for me for several years. She wanted to stay home more with her daughter and was looking for something at home. She agreed to remove all nuts and eggs from her home and only feeds the kids whole foods. She carries the Epi's everywhere and is very cautious of were she takes the them.
Besides her we have also used a couple of nursing students that I have known through work.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:32am
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NO. Our daughter HAS anaphylaxed in our "safe" home. Her history has been one of astonishingly rapid progression to grade 4 symptoms.
So, no. I wouldn't trust a teenager (no matter how responsible-- I [i]was[/i] one of those teenagers...) with keeping a level enough head if the unthinkable were to happen. The difference, perhaps, is that we [i]know[/i]-- I mean really [i]know[/i]-- that it can happen. Even in our house.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:38am
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We have 3 babysitters. They are all wonderful teens. I do show them how to use the epi pen and how to respond to hives or any symptoms. We usually do not venture too far from home and always have our cell phones.
I also remind them that they are not allowed to bring any food with them. I ask them what they would like to have around to snack on and provide it. I also ask them to wash their hands before coming and to avoid eating any nuts/peanuts that day.
One of the girl's mom is a nurse and she helps me remind her daughter about this and the other two are sisters and we're friends with their parents. They have handled everything wonderfully.
Corvalis Mom, how did your daughter have a reaction at your house? I always feel like DS is really safe here, that's kind of creepy. Can you tell us what happened?

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 3:46am
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This is a really sore subject with me. Dd is 11 now. When she was two years old we had a babysitter who snuck milk in the house and gave it to dd, knowing dd was allergic to it. Then she would throw the empty carton in the trash outside, so I would not know. I worked Mondays and Thursdays. For some reason, dd would be wheezing when I got home. She only wheezed Mondays and Thursdays. After the 4th time, dd told me that Elena was bringing in milk, giving it to her, and throwing the carton away outside. I could not believe this. Dd was actually 2 years 8 months at the time. I said you mean "soy milk". Dd said no, "milk in a box with a cow on it". Since I did not keep regular milk in the house, there was nowhere else dd could have come up with this. I lived in an apartment and the neighbors later confirmed that they had seen the babysitter giving foods which were not allowed. I cringe still thinking about it although it was 9 years ago. I took dd to the pediatrician and he reported it to the police. By the way, the babysitter had great references. There is just no way to know.

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No.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 5:44am
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The short answer is that we never determined what the trigger for that reaction was. We had lived entirely nut and egg-free for a long time, however, so it wasn't anything that we deliberately/knowingly fed her. Besides, I made probably fourteen HOURS of phone calls in the week after her rxn. It was ultra-trace amounts of something carried into the house by one of us. (DD and I had not left the house in over 24 hr and no food had been brought in either during that time. DH wasn't 'sneaking' any contraband foods at work, either.)
So this is why I say that I now know that I can't ever really be in a place mentally where I think "not here." I know better.
(Obviously, not all kids are anaphylaxers like DD. Allergist 1 concluded that some kids CAN experience idiopathic anaphylaxis, and [i]maybe[/i] this is what happened. But anyway, she almost died and it took less than ten minutes from the onset of symptoms to get there.)
With that kind of Hx, I couldn't [i]in good conscience[/i] turn DD over to a teen sitter. The ONLY three people I am comfortable with are my mother (a retired teacher who had PA kids in her classroom and has finally come round after years), our neighbor who is a cath lab nurse (and unafraid of epinephrine or 911), and my best friend, who has known DD since she was 3. They all have an appreciation for just what a hair-trigger DD lives under.

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 6:11am
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My daughter does have anaphylaxis (vomiting, hives, excessive sneezing and nasal drainage) to eggs. Two episodes, both induced in a food challenge and both recovered with benadryl only, since we found her FA when she was 12 mos. old, now 5. Other than the 2 induced anaphylactic episodes, I am happy to say we have had only to suffer through about 10 or so "mystery hives". I am sorry to hear about your episode. I can't stand not knowing where hives come from not alone less what you suffered thru. DD is allergic to peanuts too but, not anaphylactic to them. Has passed a food challenge to them 100%, but, believe it or not, gets hives if PB touches her. So, we live without them. Now, I am freaked to leave them with a sitter. You are right, FA kids are never 100% safe. I only leave them with a teen (daughter of a nurse I work with) on rare occasions but, maybe I shouldnt. Her Mom does have her wash her hands and wear no lotion etc. before she comes over. **** !

Posted on: Wed, 10/11/2006 - 8:30am
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I have a peanut and milk allergic 4 yr old son. I let a close family friend babysit who knew all about my son's allergies and what to do about them, or so I thought. I went through the whole checklist of what not to give to eat, brought all of his foods from home, explained that was the only food he was to have, and explained what to do in emergency. I was only gone for 1 1/2 hrs, walked in the door to see my 2 yr old son eating a chocolate chip cookie!! I almost passed out from ANGER!!! I ran over, grabbed the cookie from his mouth, gave him Benadryl-since no sypmtoms had started yet, had some choice words with the "family friend", and ended up sleeping in my son's room that night. Thank goodness nothing ever happened, but I completely trusted this person and what a letdown! Needless to say, I ONLY trust my mother, who dealt with my sisters tree nut allergies for the past 32 year and was a school teacher. Not to say that teenagers aren't trustworthy, just PLEASE be very careful who you let babysit!

Posted on: Thu, 10/12/2006 - 2:02am
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Posted on: Thu, 10/12/2006 - 2:35am
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I also will only have my mom and dad babysit 10yo(PA), 5 & 3yo (nonPA).
I wouldn't even have my MIL watch them simply because she hasn't taken the time to educate herself like my family has.
So I think my answer would be NO.
Overwhelmed- I reread your posts and you have a point. I bet there are teenagers who would "get it" more than my in-laws do-for instance. Sounds like her mom (and you)have educated her on the issue and that she is someone you trust.
In your situation- maybe I would reconsider my answer. DD is 10 now so I have thought about it (but would have never when she was younger)
But no matter if it were my mother or someone else, I won't go more than 30 minutes away from dd and I ALWAYS have my cell phone.
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Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 11:15am
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hi there
we are pretty picky -- grandma, aunt and one outside babysitter who is 25 and was a nanny to 5 kids for 2 years. I just feel that since we have never used the epi and have no idea how we would respond what could i expect from a babysitter so i choose not to use teenagers because i feel like it is asking too much for them to be responsible for such a big thing. Just our choices and opinions. my son is only 5 1/2 if that makes any difference.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:07pm
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I have one friend that babysits fairly often for me...She (my friend) has severe allergies to corn and shellfish, so she knows all about the danger of food allergy and how to use the epi...I have also discussed the PA with my sister in law and another friend...and I would be comfortable leaving my daughter with them in an emergency situation...I have talked to both about the allergy, and they both watched the video "It Only Takes One Bite" from the FAAN website...

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:07pm
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My babysitters are in college...one happened to grow up with a best friend that carried the Epipen. She has witnessed her friend administering it to herself, and was trained to help her friend.
My other babysitter has two parents that are doctors and I trained her w/ epipen, she was comfortable with it.
And my third one is a lifeguard with professional rescuer CPR/first aid training -- and she just got the updated training which included Epipen administration.
I have their FA ACtion Plan posted in the cabinet plus a yellow sign on the fridge with their allergies, emergency contacts etc.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:23pm
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[b]but do you ever let someone babysit kids?[/b]
No. Well, I do let DH watch them while I'm working out in the yard on the weekends, or I let him take the kids someplace without me. Somehow I don't think that counts. I have almost had to fire him a couple times though.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 12:54pm
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We've been out on a grand total of about six dates in four years [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] We usually only trust my parents (very good about it!!), but we've also used a few people from Sam's daycare who very much "get it" and are used to our situation. I teach college aged students and have gotten several unsolicited offers, but I'm just not up to trusting someone without some whopping credentials, KWIM?

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 1:01pm
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i used to have the babysitter problem but now my oldest daughter is 15 and i have a built-in babysitter who has been raised around her two little sisters' PA for 10 years now. i never imagined she'd be responsible enough to take care of her sisters, or that they'd all get along well enough one day to spend a few hours together without me, but she does a great job.

Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 1:10pm
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It totally depends on your comfort zone, of course . . . One thing that generally makes baby sitting better than preschool is that they're at your house, which (I assume) is a peanut free zone. So, somebody you trust with some special instructions (just in case) should be just fine. BTW, I know some teenagers who would react to a crisis sitation better than some of the doctors I know. . . .
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Posted on: Wed, 06/07/2006 - 10:33pm
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Our babysitter is his former daycare teacher who is training to be a nurse. She is the only one we really feel comfortable with.

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