are you a pa/tna adult with a child who isn\'t?

Posted on: Wed, 08/27/2003 - 12:37pm
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how do you pa/tna parents handle feeding your kids if they don't have the same allergies (or any at all)? i've already decided that any child i have will have to survive without peanut butter in the house, but what about eating at a friend's house or at school--how do you handle them coming home with "peanut butter breath"? i've already had to physically push away a friend's child who came up to hug me with peanut butter all over his face and hands. he was too young to understand that his hug could make me very sick and i felt horrible for repelling such a loving gesture. but what else could i do? what do you pa parents do?

Posted on: Wed, 08/27/2003 - 5:16pm
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I don't have kids, but I do have friends with kids.
I explain gently to the kids that I can't hug them when they eat something that makes them sick. And then I offer to help them wash up (if they're not covered in something I react to anaphylactically). Their parents usually make sure the kids are well wiped down and washed (and clothing changed, if necessary) before they release them from the kitchen. And the kids aren't allowed to eat elsewhere in the house while I'm there.
Once they hit ages three to five, they generally ask if they can be given something to eat that won't make me sick. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] Kids can be quite compassionate.
I probably just have nice friends who make an effort to keep me safe. It's nice, though.
ygg

Posted on: Wed, 08/27/2003 - 7:24pm
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Hi
I have a 9 year old non allergic (to anything!) DD. There are no pn in the house at all. I do let her have Nutella spread, but hazlenuts do not affect me as badly as some other nuts. I make sure that the knife is washed with boiling water. Also, the Nutella I get in Ireland is not made with peanut oil as I know it can be US/Canada.
Outside the home, and away from me, she is free to eat what she likes, but she will ALWAYS tell me if she's eaten something that day, and won't let me hug/kiss her until she thoroughly cleans herself up.
I've only ever had one reaction through contact with her after she'd eaten pn, but that was down to my own utter stupidity!
Don't feel too bad about having to repel the kids, once you explain that the pb makes you sick, they usually are very sympathetic, as krasota said.
Gwen

Posted on: Thu, 08/28/2003 - 2:02pm
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Quote:Originally posted by Gwen Thornberry:
[b]There are no pn in the house at all. I do let her have Nutella spread, but hazlenuts do not affect me as badly as some other nuts. I make sure that the knife is washed with boiling water.
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[i]Why am I feeling uncomfortable?[/i].

Posted on: Thu, 08/28/2003 - 7:42pm
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Dont know to be honest. Its not like I ler HER wash the knife. Its not like I don't know my own allergies (after 24 years, I feel a bit of a an old hand to be honest). Its not as if I don't know my own reactions and how to deal with them. Who better to know how these things go than the actual sufferer?.
Perhaps YOU could tell us why you're uncomfortable?

Posted on: Mon, 09/01/2003 - 1:59am
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Hi I have 2 children neither with P/A My oldest if very good she know that if there is PB or any nut stuff at school she tells the teacher that she can not do the project because she can make mommy sick. My youngest it is not so easy The preschool she is in she has a Peanut free calss room. The school she is in is great there are 3 or 4 other children that are P/A this helps alot.
I do not keep any P/B or nut stuff in my house and every one who my children go to visit are very aware. The girls have never had a PB&J and I dont think that they ever will. They have not had a reaction,although I do let them go with there dad or grandparents out for Ice Cream and stuff they have had may contains but are allways clean when they come home.
The only time I ever had a problem was at work when an adult came into the office eating peanuts and PB toast.I find that Adults are more careless than children.

Posted on: Mon, 09/01/2003 - 2:51am
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We have PB in our home, and DH and DS both eat it. They make their own sandwhiches, and do the clean up.
So far I'm fortunate, I haven't reacted to anything unless I've actually eaten it. I do occasionally buy items that I can't eat (granola bars, cereals) for DS. But I find that the great thing is that I do all the shopping and baking, so I can make sure we have a pretty much nut free house. Both know where the epi is, and I've taught my son how to ask for help if I'm going into anaphylaxis.

Posted on: Mon, 09/01/2003 - 4:15am
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I allow *may contains* in my home, but not actual peanuts or sesame seeds.
My 20 and 18 year olds don't usually come running for hugs and kisses anymore (sigh) so I don't have to worry about what they eat when they are not home.
My five year old hates peanuts and pb, so he's not a problem either. He can't even tolerate the smell.
My grandson is my only worry. I tried to explain to his parents that children shouldn't be given pb until at least 3 years, (5 since there's a family history), but they won't listen. As far as I know they don't give it to him before he comes to my home, but I always wash him (and change his clothes if they seem food-messy) anyway. I will continue getting my *open-mouthed* kisses until either I smell pb or I actually have a reaction. (Don't ya just love those kisses??) I hope they will continue being careful!
My friends make sure their kids don't come over smelling of pb, so I haven't had any problems with that.

Posted on: Wed, 11/19/2003 - 4:53am
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I have two sons 5 and almost 7 who are not allergic as far as I know. I have not let them have any of the products to which I am allergic. This is in part because my brother and I both have peanut and tree nut allergy. My sons have negative Rast tests but they have never been exposed. I may have the eldest skin tested as he dislikes the smell of peanuts. It's probably paranoid and overkill but I can't have the items in the house anyways. In part I made this decision because my allergy is so severe. Hopefully more research will be available in the future to help refine the decisions. I have to be careful at their school and try to avoid mealtimes and snacktimes.

Posted on: Wed, 12/03/2003 - 2:33am
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I have two children, and I became PA after they were born. Neither is allergic.
They eat pn and pb at Grandmas and at school all the time. They know they cannot eat it at home, and they must wash their hands/faces before they leave school. I do not have pb or any pn products in my house.

Posted on: Wed, 12/03/2003 - 11:48am
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No peanut or sesame in the house but "may contains" are allowed. My 7 yr old allergy free DD can eat peanut products but MUST be outside the house and immediately wash hands, face and brush teeth on coming home.

Posted on: Sun, 12/28/2003 - 5:49am
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I am an adult age 49 with pa. There is no peanut butter, oil, or any peanut product in our house. When/if my dd or Dh eat something with peanuts in it outside the house they have to wash thoroughly and brush their teeth and/or wash their beard before they touch anything in the house, especially me!

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