any good come-backs??

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 8:32am
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I am tired of family acting like these food allergies are *our* faults(there's no food allergies in either immediate family). They've actually said "well it must be some mutated gene" like I'm some weirdo creating *freak children*!!! How do you reply, what do you say???

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Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, plus MANY seasonal)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, plus seasonal and animal)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, plus animal)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

[This message has been edited by chanda4 (edited January 24, 2007).]

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 8:43am
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LAUGH. Heartily. And then smile and say, [i]"You must be right. Good thing that particular 'gene cluster' is linked to higher intelligence, too..."[/i]
And walk away before they catch on.
Heheheheh. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Other favorites that I have actually used on particularly obnoxious people....
The [i]whydontchajust....[/i] people who think you should really "fix" your kid:
[i]"You're right. We keep her(him, them) this way because we don't really love her and are trying to punish her."[/i] (ETA-- never actually USED this one, as it is just too mean-spirited for me to [i]say[/i] but I have thought things even MORE wicked.)
To the "Hygeine/Bad parenting" person,
[i]"Yup. The doctor said if only we'd rolled her in pig ***t and fed her from the garbage can from day one, it all would've been SOOOOOO different."[/i]
I loathe people who are rude and intrusive about something they CLEARLY know little about. But if it is any consolation, people with any disability suffer through the same thing. Unthinkable, yes. Rude, absolutely. But it happens all the time.
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Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 10:55am
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this is cracking me up.
one year at christmas, a family member announced that he had brought nut baskets for all the relatives "with healthy children." (implying, of course, that we had unhealthy children).
my oldest daughter (and only non-PA child) was about 4th or 5th grade age then and quickly piped up...."actually, the kids in our family are healthier than all the others. their immune systems work better than everyone elses'." ....or something along those lines.
i remember just beaming at her remark. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 11:08am
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OMG -- CorvallisMOM!!!! That is priceless. I've got to remember to get DH to read your post, and will have to print out that line about the hygeine/bad parenting.
And Chanda, family that has acted like my children are mutants are family that we don't hang around with anymore. Same goes for friends. To me I have found a correlation between how much I want to hang out with people, or who I would like my children to be around, and how many stupid, obnoxious, insensitive, thoughtless, etc. things that get said. The more they say, the less we are around them.
We have a very quiet social life.

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 11:45am
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these are ALL good!!! I did however use the "actually, the kids in our family are healthier than all the others. their immune systems work better than everyone elses'." from Joeybeth's daughter, perfect!!! It was to my grandma, whom I just met 10 yrs ago(her son, my dad didn't want anything to do with my mom when she found out she was prego...) anyways not someone I should be wasting my time trying to explain, but I wanted to say something!! THANKS [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, plus MANY seasonal)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, plus seasonal and animal)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, plus animal)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 12:48pm
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I'd say....your right...they say it skips a generation.

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 2:00pm
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my 10 yr old has also been using this one for a couple of years now....
when people ask her the dreaded, "omg! peanut butter is my absolute favorite. i'd die without it. how on earth do you live without peanut butter????", she almost always looks them straight in the eye, with a slight smile on her face and says.....
"you know that stuff goes straight to your thighs, don't you?"
i especially get a kick out of the looks on adult womens' faces when she uses it on them. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] she's not rude....just funny.
i've mentioned this one here before i but i once took great pleasure in using a come-back on a woman at school. in my middle daughter's first grade year of school, she had a classmate whose mother had an obvious love affair with the almighty peanut. it seems like she was attempting to drag them into the classroom in one form or another all the time.
one afternoon she caught me and said very slyly,.... "you know my little girl hasn't been eating her lunch at school these days and i'm very worried about her. she only eats peanut butter (yeah right) and she's refusing to eat her lunch because of your daughter. i wonder if you realize how difficult this is for others?" (this was some time ago so i'm sure her exact words were different...but you get the idea)...
i smiled as sweetly as i could and said in my nicest possible voice. "wow. what a wonderful daughter you have. wouldn't it be nice if adults were as thoughtful as children?"
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 4:32pm
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I have a similar issue. My family has no allergies of any kind (well my sister and I are both allergic to sulfa but none other than that). My dh has eczema-no other allergies in his family (other than drugs-his brother is allergic to penicillin and dh reacted to it the last time he took it). So anyway, if dd's allergies come up my sisters always say 'well blame it on your dh'. WTH?
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Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 9:21pm
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I definitely love you corvalismom! You always know what to say.
I don't know if I've ever had someone be so blatently rude to me about the allergies. People do ask questions, like will he grow out of it, do they know what causes food allergies etc. but in a sincere way.
I don't know what I would say...probably something sarcastic, it would depend on the situation and the person saying it.

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 10:09pm
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Joeybeth - your DD has the best comebacks!!
I don't have any good ones other than to stand there speachless. I need some good ones too!! "Too many peanuts while pregnant, huh?". Yes. It's my fault. ALLLLLL my fault. I guess I'm sensitive to this one as I asked three different doctors if I needed to avoid (no FA in my family) and they all looked at me like I was insane!

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2007 - 11:11pm
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Too funny Corvallis Mom- I loved it [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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