Advice for helping teenager understand my son\'s allergy

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 1:16am
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My boyfriend has two kids and I have educated them on my son's PA, trained them on using the epi pen, talked about the severity of the allergy, what could happen, etc. Yesterday while visiting their house, the teenage daughter made herself a peanutbutter sandwhich and sat down next to my son. Her Dad immediately told her to go in the other room, finish up and wash her hands. As you can imagine she didn't take it too well, she is a teenager after all :-) We did have a chat with her later about the severity of his allergies but I'm not so sure she "gets it". Do you have any advice on how to speak with her or literature she could read?
Since I have been lucky enough to have discovered his PA before he had a reaction, it is hard for some people to understand how severe it can be because he's never had a reaction, thus there is no "proof"
My comfort level is pretty high but I do restrict peanut products in my house and he goes to a nut-free daycare. Since he does spend alot of time at her house it is important to me that she understands. What would happen if I left him alone with her and she doesn't get it? She would eat PB&J in front of him again? Any advice you can give would be great!!

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 1:58am
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My first thought (although I would check with your bf first to make sure he is okay with it) is to share the "In Memory" page that have the pictures of people who have died of allergic reactions. I think that all the scientific lectures in the world wouldn't have the same impact as those pictures.
[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum18/HTML/000426.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum18/HTML/000426.html[/url]
You could also share the thread with pictures of kids who are having an allergic reaction.
[This message has been edited by Greenlady (edited May 09, 2006).]

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 3:04am
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The "In Memory" thread is a good suggestion.
Having a face to go w/the name really sends a message.
In the meantime, find a babysitter that does "get it"!

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 3:16am
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This site [url="http://www.faanteen.org/"]http://www.faanteen.org/[/url] is designed for teens with food allergies but maybe she'd be interested to read the Personal Stories or The Real World posts since they're aimed at her peergroup.
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[url="http://www.seattlefoodallergy.org"]www.seattlefoodallergy.org[/url]

Posted on: Wed, 05/10/2006 - 1:03am
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Thank you for your responses. I am a member of FAAN and didn't even realize they had that website! I pulled off a few articles and will email them...thanks again!

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 1:58am
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My first thought (although I would check with your bf first to make sure he is okay with it) is to share the "In Memory" page that have the pictures of people who have died of allergic reactions. I think that all the scientific lectures in the world wouldn't have the same impact as those pictures.
[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum18/HTML/000426.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum18/HTML/000426.html[/url]
You could also share the thread with pictures of kids who are having an allergic reaction.
[This message has been edited by Greenlady (edited May 09, 2006).]

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 3:04am
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The "In Memory" thread is a good suggestion.
Having a face to go w/the name really sends a message.
In the meantime, find a babysitter that does "get it"!

Posted on: Tue, 05/09/2006 - 3:16am
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This site [url="http://www.faanteen.org/"]http://www.faanteen.org/[/url] is designed for teens with food allergies but maybe she'd be interested to read the Personal Stories or The Real World posts since they're aimed at her peergroup.
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Jana
[url="http://www.seattlefoodallergy.org"]www.seattlefoodallergy.org[/url]

Posted on: Wed, 05/10/2006 - 1:03am
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Thank you for your responses. I am a member of FAAN and didn't even realize they had that website! I pulled off a few articles and will email them...thanks again!

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