About to loose it!

Posted on: Tue, 07/08/2008 - 12:01pm
kmoths's picture
Joined: 04/30/2008 - 18:38

I am not sure if i am posting this in the right place but hopefully someone can give me some kind of guidance. I have read a lot on the forum and on other forums. I am trying to peace together everything i am learning and its just not happening. I feel completly lost. Being a first time parent is hard enough making decisions on what to feed your child now I have PA to worry about.
At some point I am sure a lot of you felt this way and I know im not alone I just don't know when I am going to feel ok about all of this. How do you figure it all out? Any guidance would be appreciated.

Posted on: Tue, 07/08/2008 - 12:29pm
cristym's picture
Joined: 11/19/2007 - 17:26

kmoths -
It is very overwhelming at first. The first thing to know is that you can do this.
It does get easier, The first thing I did was to make our house Peanut and tree nut free, so I know that if I have brought it in our house it is safe for my kids to eat. I read lables all the time, it is just a normal part of grocery shopping. When my husband shops, I always dbl check the lables as I put the items away. ;) For us this first step, went a long way to making us feel more secure and confident.

Posted on: Tue, 07/08/2008 - 12:44pm
SkyMom's picture
Joined: 10/27/2001 - 09:00

kmoths, I agree with cristym. It does get more sane after you get into a routine of practising safe avoidance. My dd was my first and had her first reaction at ten months. The insecurities of a new mom along with pa is difficult. These are perfectly normal feelings. There is no get over it quick rule to fa's. In your own time and in your own way you will learn how to live a normal life and protect your child at the same time.

Posted on: Tue, 07/08/2008 - 1:15pm
Mom2angels's picture
Joined: 02/07/2008 - 20:14

We're relatively new to this, also. My DD was diagnosed in February. I think it takes a while to find your own "comfort zone". I think most of the parents on here have pretty tight comfort zones, as do I. My comfort zone is a lot tighter than say, my husband's---which scares me to death. But, it'll take a while for you to find your groove. It gets more familiar all the time---not really easier, but more familiar.

Posted on: Wed, 07/09/2008 - 4:20am
hollya's picture
Joined: 05/10/2007 - 09:00

I agree with the other post. I am a first time Mom as well and fixing to be one again in a few weeks. My son was diagnosed at 13 months and has not had another reaction until this year at about 2

Posted on: Wed, 07/09/2008 - 5:39am
kmoths's picture
Joined: 04/30/2008 - 18:38

Thank you all for your responses. I know that it is going to take a while for me to figure it all out, one of my main issues is the cooking. I don

Posted on: Tue, 07/15/2008 - 11:17am
GinaC's picture
Joined: 11/11/2006 - 09:00

Hi Kmoths,
Not sure if these will be helpful or not but I wrote a bunch of articles on being a "newbie" with a food allergic child.
Here are some links:
[url="http://www.allergymoms.com/modules/wordpress/index.php?p=531"]My Story[/url]
[url="http://www.allergymoms.com/modules/wordpress/index.php?p=544"]Where do I start? Tips for New Food Allergy Parents[/url]
[url="http://www.allergymoms.com/modules/wordpress/index.php?p=554"]Settling Into An Allergy Life[/url]
[url="http://www.allergymoms.com/modules/wordpress/index.php?p=558"]What I wish I knew: Food Allergy Lessons Learned[/url]
Hope something there might help!
Take care,

Posted on: Tue, 07/15/2008 - 2:02pm
SkyMom's picture
Joined: 10/27/2001 - 09:00

Wonderful articles Gina. Thanks for sharing.

Posted on: Wed, 07/16/2008 - 8:24am
kmoths's picture
Joined: 04/30/2008 - 18:38

Thank you for sharing your articles.

Posted on: Fri, 07/18/2008 - 3:40am
tahoemom's picture
Joined: 03/11/2005 - 09:00

I constantly watch and read postings on this site but rarely respond; however, I can relate all too well to your situation. I was virtually paralyzed by the realization that my 16 month old daughter (at that time) was severely allergic to peanuts. I found a great ally in a mom all the way across the country who really helped me. Here are a few tips that may help you as well.
-Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network is an unbelievable resource and worth the annual membership.
-Medic Alert is also worth the membership and this is where you can purchase a bracelet that your child wears at all times.
-Have multiple Epis with your child at all times and make sure everyone who cares for her knows how to use them.
-READ everything - food, sunscreen, shampoo, lotions, etc.
-Until you find your comfort zone, bring her own food everywhere.
-If you are eating out, call the manager before you arrive and ask if they can accommodate. 99% of the time, they can and will (but the manager is the only person I rely on.)
-Most importantly, don't let this "define" you or your child. Once you find your comfort zone, you will see that it is more than possible to live a very enriching and happy life. This is one aspect of your child but there are many other things to focus on. Of course, BE SAFE, but once the guidelines are in place, enjoy your child. It took me some time to get to that point, but I try not to live in fear, but in joy.
We are all feeling for you. Please use this community as a resource as we all can understand how the initial adjustment can be scary and overwhelming. Good luck - you guys will do great!

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