A True Story...


A True Story...

I wake feeling pretty good, considering I didn

On May 1, 2001

vic, this is wonderfully written and essentially captures how I certainly felt when Jesse first went to school. Now that he's almost finishing his second year of school I would have to say that the feeling comes and goes, but it is still there, almost exactly as you described it, word for word, in the back of my head.

It is a beautiful piece, vic. Thank-you for sharing it with us.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]


On May 2, 2001

hello vic the same feelings here, school trip soon, birthday partys, normal teacher away, all increase the pressure, as do comments like why are you carring that bag of epi -pens while you are waiting for him to come out of school ? , he can walk to the car from school without it cant he? standing in the playground praying that the temp teacher has rememberd the box of safe sweets to swap, and knowing that another mummy has brought in mini mars bars as a birthday treat to be handed around the class. l have warned them , please let them remember, mars bars allergic on two counts egg and nuts... thank goodness hes ok,... now go home and the relief is good, back the after school activites and homework.... we all go through the same things only here can we be united and support each other with the extra challenges a allergic child brings to our familys, and perhaps to acheive the goal of bringing up a well rounded safe , well child. thanks williamsmummy on a grey dull day at least its not raining, oh for a short spell of sunshine ,...sigh....

On May 2, 2001


I think you have exactly hit on feelings we have all had ( or have) at one point or another. I think it is so important to express and share with others the way we feel. Somedays this PA stuff just seems like too much and others not so bad. As time goes on, I find there are more good days and less bad. I find I only sleep terribly at the start of a school year or after a vacation.

Thanks for sharing!


williamsmummy- the sunny is hiding from us today too-and I live in Southern California!!

On May 2, 2001

Vic, this is the most beautiful story and so true. I still cry when I think christopher may be nervous about food. I still cry when he goes to school and wonder will he be safe. I still cry when I think about the times he has had a reaction and I always think what if I am not there when something does go wrong? Will anyone know how to treat my baby? Mothers instinct is something that some unfortunate people just don't get. Claire

On May 2, 2001

Vic, Beautifully written and I think it shows exactly how we all feel when we send our little ones off into the world every morning. Oh wouldn't it be nice to keep them all safe and snug at home!

I know this sounds terrible, but I actually look for excuses for my daughter to stay home from school in the morning! All she has to do is cough once when she wakes up, and that'll do it for me! Of course, I don't always keep her home, (she loves school) but believe me, the thought crosses my mind every morning!

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On May 2, 2001


What a great story and as other's have mentioned, I think it is exactly the way we do or have felt like at one point or another. I thought it would get easier the older my son got but it just means "new" situations arise at each grade level.

I would love to give a copy of what you have written to my son's teacher and say this is exactly what we parents go through when our children enter those double doors!

Great job!!

------------------ Stay Safe.

On May 2, 2001

Vic, Your words are so powerful. As I was reading, my stomach tightened, throat ached, heart pounded. I hope many people will read your story and understand.


On May 3, 2001

sniff, sniff! ...what more can I say!

On May 3, 2001

incredibly well written and indeed a feeling that all of us here can relate to. Just a thought....what about sending this on to Nestles? If this doesn't touch their hearts then they indeed don't have one!

On May 4, 2001

Vic, Have you thought of sending this to your local media for Allergy Awareness Week? No kidding, you ought to get this published. It is very powerful.


On May 4, 2001

I am more convinced than ever that homeschooling is the best choice!

On May 4, 2001


How I cried when I first read that the other day. I put it up on my fridge. It is so very, very true. I still get teary eyed every time I read it since then.

It is the gods honest truth & no one, I mean no one can say it isn't.

Today the phone rang when Bobby was at school & the nurse was on the other end...She said Mrs. Chavez this is not an emergency.....My heart was racing & I nearly started to go into a panic attack. She needed to clarify something. It is jsut how us parents worry constantly.

Vic, Thank You for writing this story & I hope you can publish this somewhere so everyone can read it & understand it.


On May 4, 2001

Thanks to you all. Now it's my turn to cry. I didn't realize this would hit home with so many of you. I really just wanted to get it off my chest. Unless they live it, I don't think others really understand what we go through everyday.

I think I will e mail this to Nestles. Thanks for the idea.

I really appreciate all of the support I get from all of you. PA.com has helped me a lot.

------------------ Peanut/Nut-free wishes, Victoria

On May 4, 2001

Dear Vic,

This is the most wonderful thing I've read in a long time, you have taken the feelings right from my heart. My PA daughter is also 5 years old and I feel this way every time I drop her off at school. She is in her second year now SK,still going every other day. Between my mothre and I we take off her school days from work so she can come home for lunch. Next year is the year I dread as she will be fulltime and I just can't afford to quit my job so she can come home for lunch. I am very worried about this [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] I too think about all things you have described, I also worry about what others have had for breakfast or lunch and sit and stare from the car as she plays on the equipment, wondering if someone who had nuts just touched the thing she is about to touch. One of the worst things is little girls her age love to hug thier friends and hold hands this turns my stomach. But for now I have none of these worries as her school board is out on what it seems will be a lenghy strike. Again your piece was wonderful and someday perhaps none of us here will ever have to feel this way agian.

On May 8, 2001

hello, vic, thanks for this, will take a copy to school, and friends in my support group. my local paper is coming today re my allergy group and l will give them a copy. thanks


On May 29, 2001

I have sent my story to Oprah, hoping that with all of the other e mails we all have recently sent, they will listen to us and do a show about food allergies. Lets keep our fingers crossed!

------------------ Peanut/Nut-free wishes, Victoria

On Jun 3, 2001

I just wanted to leave a post letting everyone know that I sent the Oprah show an email about how the PA issue is not and "Attack the peanut industry issue". It is about issues of labeling and keeping our children safe! I'm hoping that it might get them to air something... regardless of the whole Meat Industry thing. I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

On Aug 14, 2001

Just bringing this up for Lorie.

On Aug 17, 2001

Thank you Vic for sharing this beautiful oh so true story with us. Although my daughter has not yet entered school, your story which is very well versed has said it all. Good luck to you and I hope you get positive results with Oprah and Nestle and maybe many more.

On Aug 17, 2001


On Aug 21, 2001

That's exactly what I was going to say.


On Feb 16, 2002

Not sure if this is what the other poster was searching for as this may not be interpreted as a poem but thought I would bump it up anyway.

On Mar 23, 2002

Thanks Vic! I may take this to church no I will! I may even call the newspaper and see if they would like to run a story on food allergies. My DD is allergic to peanuts, tree nuts and seeds. People just don't get how hard it is. Connielynn

On Mar 25, 2002

Connielynn, you are welcome and good luck to you!

------------------ Peanut/Nut-free wishes, Victoria

On Aug 18, 2002

bringing it to the top

On Aug 19, 2002


Thank you for re-raising this...and for the lump in my throat a second time around! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Awesome...just awesome!

------------------ Stay Safe!


On Feb 4, 2003

I found this as I was surffing.

Vic all I can say is[b] Thanks for sharing this.[/b]

My feeling to the T.

It's ok we all can and will keep our kids safe. Vic, I hope you don't mind that I am bummping this up for the new commers.

Love this site Synthia

edited to correct spelling

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On Feb 4, 2003

Beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes.

------------------ Cynde

On Feb 24, 2003

That was so beautiful my DS isen't in school yet but it brought tears to my eyes and knot in my stomach the size of a basketball. Good luck with Oprah and Nestle


On Feb 25, 2003


Would it be alright with you if I read your story at the PTA meeting coming up? There will be a guest speaker that night re nut allergies. I plan to be very vocal. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Your letter may be just the thing to sink it in to the other parents.


On Feb 25, 2003

Hi Susan, thanks for asking and yes, be my guest. If it helps even one person I'm happy!

Thanks to the rest of you who have replied lately. Hope you are all well and safe.

------------------ Peanut/Nut-free wishes, Victoria

On Feb 25, 2003

vic, I'm glad that you saw your wonderful thread had been re-raised. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

You know what? It would also be *good* under Schools as well for some reason.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]


On Jul 8, 2004

Re-raising for Molly

On Jul 9, 2004

Wow, my ds isn't school aged yet but it brought tears to my eyes and really rings true with me, thank you vic. Beautifully written.

On Jul 18, 2004

vic, wow, great to see you posting! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

I had seen that this thread had been re-raised and I wasn't sure by who. Finally got a chance to check to-day.

Great to see you posting! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

On Aug 11, 2004


Originally posted by vic: [b]A True Story...

I wake feeling pretty good, considering I didn

On Aug 8, 2005

Simply re-raising for back-to-school time. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

On Aug 20, 2005


On Sep 14, 2005

Oh, this brought tears to my eyes!! This really hits home for me on how I am feeling. My son just started preschool this week and I am feeling overwhelmed. How I hope our prayers are heard and our little ones are protected each and every day. Thanks for sharing.