A little bit of sadness

Posted on: Wed, 01/08/2003 - 10:38pm
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Last night my son (PA) asked me a question - it was bedtime... I think he was stalling, but still - he asked "Why is there so much peanut stuff at school? There wasn't that much at first, maybe only 2 people." (He's in K.)

He was referring to his classmates. I guess at the beginning of the year, when everyone had just been told about a PA student at school, not very many kids brought PB. But now, more people are bringing it. I tried to explain that maybe, at first, they were trying to protect you, but then after this much time, not hearing about any ill-effects, they think it's OK to send it more often. He seemed to understand, and even said "It's OK, I don't mind."

We are perfectly pleased with the way school has been going - they have been more than wonderful, and have surpassed our expectations. As long as he's safe, that's what matters, and so far he has been, so we don't feel the need to change our plans.

Just made me a bit sad. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Thanks for being here. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 01/09/2003 - 12:07pm
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Lam:
I can empathize with your sadness! My son with PA is in kindergarten (just turned 6) and he, too, sometimes gets sad over all the peanuts. For instance, if he goes to a birthday party and gets a treat bag and it has things in it he can't eat, he just doesn't understand why people would include those products "if they know me". He doesn't get mad or make a scene...but I can tell he is bewildered at why people would include something he couldn't have.
Now, I don't ask parents to make any special accomodations for him (other than the fact that I speak to them before the party to make sure that either he can eat what is being served at the party and/or I will provide him with his own food). So this happens every so often. At this age he is still getting used to the idea that he is not the center of the universe. As the year goes on, he is getting better and better at handling it.
Like you, I am pleased with the way his school is going and how receptive parents have been. But the times where he does notice the peanut products, it tugs at my heart, too.
On the positive side, I think that this experience will help shape him into the type of child/adult that is mindful of others feelings.
Thanks for sharing, it helps to hear I am not alone.
Kelly

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 4:00am
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Just wanted to let you know. We always do a reminder the first of the school year. Re-meet with teachers go over the plan again. Discuss the coming plans for the new year and ask them to send out another reminder to the parents. You have valentines and spring break coming up and end of year parties. Let's all be prepared and helpful with our reminders to teachers who have now had a break from all the safety concerns.

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 6:00am
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busymom,
I don't know if your response was directed to me, but my son was referring to what the kids are bringing to lunch. We don't ask the parents to NOT send anything P/TN for their kids' lunches. Our son has been fine (meaning, no reactions).
As for the classroom, the teachers have it under total control. I couldn't be happier. I realize we are one of the few "lucky ones".

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