A brief pause.....

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 1:04am
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Dear Mrs. Special Education Services Director:

Your followup is appreciated. Thank you for arranging it.

November 14 is fine to reconvene the IEP team. I'd prefer the Superintendent be present.

Yesterday, I spoke with Mr. Principal regarding a concern I have addressed with you previously. On several occassions, during which I had an opportunity to meet with certain staff in person, and during the school day, and while same certain staff were working directly with my 11 year old son, I have noticed, quite uncomfortably, that same certain staff were wearing clothing that was not in compliance with the <>> dress code as I received last year at <<>>. I'm assuming off-the-shoulder blouses and clothing items that allow for chest undergarments and what appears to be bra straps (either clear plastic or colored) to be in full view on the shoulder, back and chest, are not considered "professional dress" or in conformity with the dress code. You have informed me, lack professional dress/non-compliance with the dress code) it was an "ongoing problem" at <<>>. You are correct.

Mr. Principal informed me yesterday over the phone, that he had indeed, approximately three weeks ago, had opportunity to witness this himself and address the issue and in particular, with same certain staff. And yes, it appears to be an ongoing problem despite his attempts at redirection and/or asserting the dress code. Or at least it had occurred again as it was the case when I was present at school October 31 this week. I brought it to the attention of <>>. I've asked for discretion and confidentiality in handling this concern, as my son is quite literally, [i]in the middle[/i].

What promted my call.....about a week ago, my son had come to me on his own, ( when I spoke with you initially regarding this concern), and confirmed to me that this is making him feel [i]uncomfortable[/i].

I had hoped he wasn't feeling as uncomfortable as I had been when only chancing upon it during a brief encounter.. I had quite sheepishly, and a mistake on my part, hoped he was [i]oblivious[/i].

Apparently, [b]he's not[/b].

No surprise.

Some of the exact words he used to describe the apparent conflict he was having: [i]"I thought she was going to be older."[/i] He's never made an issue of the age someone appears to be, but I guess this is his best attempt, having a communication disability, namely Autism/Asperger's, to describe something that should, as it did for me, be a cause for [i]concern[/i]. The fact he actually put it into words says a great deal about the level of anxiety this is causing him. He is not one to be critical.

During a brief meeting with <<>>after school October 31, and during which I was also present, he expressed, using the same words, this same discomfort.

His response to a situation he currently finds himself inextricably bound to, unable to distance himself, merely since he is, in a sense, connected to this person throughout the day, and [i]unavoidably so[/i]------------[b]completely normal[/b], considering. But something that cannot continue as it is. It would not be appropriate to allow it to. It would be [i]negligent[/i].

It is distressful for him. At age 11, (despite being 145 lbs and 5' 8" at recent physician visit), I thought possibly, I might encounter this problem (dress code violations) among peers, but it had never occurred to me I'd be communicating a similiar concern related to staff charged with the care, possibly instruction, safety, and emotional development of him. [i]Role models.[/i]

Notes home in his communication folder question me as to why he might be becomming increasingly distressed and quote "frustrated" at school. From certain individuals.

I think this is where we should insert a brief pause.....

You had indicated to me at the end of that conversation, and in light of some other concerns, that sometimes a pairing might not be [i]a good match[/i]. I'm thinking this is the case. Please advise, as I'm no longer feeling as sheepish. I'm concerned. And I've taken the time to make those first in the chain of command aware.

Sincerly,

Mrs. Growling, Poised, MommaBear.

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Edit to add, I'm waiting to send aforementioned email when my child arrives home. Any suggestions would be helpful. I'm genuinely listening.

[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited November 02, 2006).]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 1:22am
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Wow. Almost makes you want to walk up to her and say, "Why Miss <>, what and interesting clothing choice you have made for yourself today. Going clubbing after school, are you?"
Grrrrr.

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 3:37am
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What's the issue? A dress code violation?
In someone else's child?
If so, help me out, really...
would concern YOUR family? (or ANY other family?)
Id say more, but I dont know, really, if that the issue at hand?
I read the letter... Besides a fragmented sentence somewhere at the beginning Quote:Mr. Principal informed me yesterday over the phone, that he had indeed, approximately three weeks ago, had opportunity to witness this himself and address the issue and in particular, with same certain staff.) or maybe not fragmented.. but it was 'tough' reading, kwim?
Jason

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Jason, it's a staff member assigned to work closely with my child. It's a "related service" in his IEP. But I'll rework the letter to make it less fragmented. Point taken. If I'm not careful, that whole "stream of consciousness" thing falls through into my letters.
I'm going to wait for a few more responses before I rework it. Don't know why, but I'm trying not to name names in the letter or indicate specifically who it is. I've already covered that in several phone calls. Call it mercy. I don't want that floating around someone's "permanent record". I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. To save face. Maybe I'm being too generous?
I might be editing this out....

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So Jason, being a man, how would you feel at age 11, if you worked one on one with school staff each and every day that even if only occasionally, dressed as described? You know, in front of your peers?

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MB,this is just my opinion, but I like to get straight to the point in letters:
"Dear Ms. XXXX
My son's aide dresses inappropriately. He is uncomfortable and stressed out by this. I think her clothing is inappropriate and against the dress code. What are you going to do about it?
Sincerely,"
Clear and to the point. Then under your breath you could remind the aide that Spring Break isn't until April!
Good luck!
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mom to Ari(6) - severe nut allergies, asthma, you name it - and Maya (9), mild excema

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LOLOLOL
I think a quick fix would be to tell said teacher that her low cut shirts with boobs hanging out of them is turning your 11 year old son on and that it's causing him to feel all funny inside. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Unless that's the kind of message she's trying to send. :shrug:
Btw, does she have a tramp stamp? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:38am
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I agree: keep it short and. . . businesslike. I like the draft put forward by that'smetrying.
Question~ You've already notified both the principal and Dir of Sp Ed about this in verbal conversations? Yes?
If so, then at this point I wouldn't hesitate to put the name on record. You've given them (principal and Dir Sp Ed) the opportunity to take action and it remains a problem for your son. Personally, if I felt my concern needed to be raised to the level of providing a written letter, then naming the staff person is inevitable.

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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. [/b]
LOL! You're kidding, right? You're still in the same district that you've been in for a while now, right?

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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] LOL! You're kidding, right? You're still in the same district that you've been in for a while now, right? [/b]
your absolutely right....entrails for dinner it is!!!
Honestly, Gail? I'm still reeling from the whole shock of it. The idea that this may be [i]retaliation[/i] for asserting the necessity of an aide....remember how many weeks of "interviewing" there was? The initial lack of the "position" being filled prior to the start of school? The phone call the night directly before, asking me if I was still sending him although a related service tied directly to his health care plan as well as [i]what is currently ending up as instructional assistance[/i] was enumerated in his IEP??
I'm telling you, the whole "aide" issue could have been implemented a lot less noticeably in order to allow him to socialize....
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited November 02, 2006).]

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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b]
Btw, does she have a tramp stamp? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img][/b]
Okay, I was going to ask exactly what a "tramp stamp" was because I guess I have just not been "out there" much lately. Instead, I took my husband's advice and "wikipedia'ed it."
OH MY!
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Mommy to Aiden (1/26/05) PA,wheat,barley,soy,egg and others yet to be discovered and Connor (7/21/06) with possible egg allergy

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 5:30am
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Next time you see this, take a picture of her and your son together. Seriously. Does you cell phone have a camera?

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Straight and to the point, yes. don't beat around the bush. Out with it, quickly.
So, your 11 yr old son has a one-on-one aide that dresses inappropriately? How old is SHE? Like, 20+ yo? I would guess a 'teachers aide' or something like that? (not like a junior/senior in high school, right?)
Have you talked to her about this? Has she dressed this way in the past? Have you talked to the principal (or 504 coordinator, or whoever's 'in charge')
Becoming more clear now...
Jason
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E-mom you crack me up! Some of the younger people in my neck of the woods call them "bulls-eyes". [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 6:33am
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This is the point at which I would feel no compunction about manufacturing a fictitious neighbor/friend/relative who is a lovely 18 year old girl. She is beginning to explore the local college club scene.
Naturally, she'd love to know where to obtain such undergarments. Perhaps at
Victoria's (not-so-) Secret? I would ask this obviously fashion-forward person at my first opportunity. Since you've used your cell phone to snap a photo to admire later with this "friend/relative/neighbor." Naturally you need to know.
(silkily)[i]Oh, my... I hope I haven't embarrassed you by asking about your bra!! I had no idea you were so modest about it, dressed as you are. Soooooo sorry..... [/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
[i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i]
But I have been told I have a mean streak. I might be a bad influence. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
(In a whole pantheon of them, obviously...)
[This message has been edited by Corvallis Mom (edited November 02, 2006).]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 6:54am
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Ok here is another possibility... does she otherwise seem like a good aide and a nice person? You could just talk to her and tell her in a nice way that you don't want to embarrass her but the way she is dressing is causing your son to feel uncomfortable.
Or instead of writing a letter, you could just have a chat with the principal in a friendly way and they can have a chat about it without it being a formalized, potentially tense thing.
Of course I have no idea about what the atmosphere at your school is like. If you have an uncooperative administration and/or aide a letter may be the best way to go. And in that case, I agree with the other posters, I'd get right to the point in a polite way.
Sorry that you're having to deal with the booty call aide! Haha... as if you don't have enough concerns at school already!
Hang in there [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Ohhhhhh how about just asking her what dance club she's going to after school lets out. And then break out your disco inferno dance. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Oh man, I could have so much fun with this if I went to pick up your son from school. Please oh please oh please...can I???

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How about just telling her that you heard some of the kids :snicker: and makes comments like, "did you see the one teacher...she has big boobies" [/snicker] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ETA: make sure when saying this that you put a "laughing snort" in at the end.
[This message has been edited by e-mom (edited November 02, 2006).]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 9:15am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b][i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i][/b]
We could nominate her! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]
I love how Stacy and Clinton do a sneak attack and scare the cr@p out of the person! The school staff (including the principal and Dir of Sp Ed) could be there when they watch the clips from weeks of secret videotaping of her wearing inappropriate attire. Can't you just hear Stacy and Clinton's comments? LOL!

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 9:19am
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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b]How about just telling her that you heard some of the kids :snicker: and makes comments like, "did you see the one teacher...she has big boobies" [/snicker] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ETA: make sure when saying this that you put a "laughing snort" in at the end. [/b]
she probably weighs all of [i]80 lbs. soaking wet[/i]. there is 8 inches of space between her legs when she stands with her feet [i]together[/i]. her earings are bulkier than she is. literally.
she makes *you* look corn fed. Her label size is "Barbie".
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited November 02, 2006).]

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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] We could nominate her! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]
[/b]
don't make me drool!
[i]tempting[/i]
I love rechannelling my energy...creatively.
ps...way to go Corvallis mom!

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Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
As for your letter, I do think your point is lost in your "stream of consciousness" writing.
How about: "As previously discussed (Principal), (aide) is continuing to dress inappropriately (as determined by the school dress code) and it is having a negative impact on (child).
I expect that this will be addressed immediately and will no longer be an issue."
good luck!

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Quote:Originally posted by mharasym:
[b]Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
[/b]
Now if only my principal could repeat this to me, I'd think my child *might* be in an educationally [i]appropriate[/i] environment.

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Wow. Almost makes you want to walk up to her and say, "Why Miss <>, what and interesting clothing choice you have made for yourself today. Going clubbing after school, are you?"
Grrrrr.

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What's the issue? A dress code violation?
In someone else's child?
If so, help me out, really...
would concern YOUR family? (or ANY other family?)
Id say more, but I dont know, really, if that the issue at hand?
I read the letter... Besides a fragmented sentence somewhere at the beginning Quote:Mr. Principal informed me yesterday over the phone, that he had indeed, approximately three weeks ago, had opportunity to witness this himself and address the issue and in particular, with same certain staff.) or maybe not fragmented.. but it was 'tough' reading, kwim?
Jason

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Jason, it's a staff member assigned to work closely with my child. It's a "related service" in his IEP. But I'll rework the letter to make it less fragmented. Point taken. If I'm not careful, that whole "stream of consciousness" thing falls through into my letters.
I'm going to wait for a few more responses before I rework it. Don't know why, but I'm trying not to name names in the letter or indicate specifically who it is. I've already covered that in several phone calls. Call it mercy. I don't want that floating around someone's "permanent record". I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. To save face. Maybe I'm being too generous?
I might be editing this out....

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So Jason, being a man, how would you feel at age 11, if you worked one on one with school staff each and every day that even if only occasionally, dressed as described? You know, in front of your peers?

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:05am
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MB,this is just my opinion, but I like to get straight to the point in letters:
"Dear Ms. XXXX
My son's aide dresses inappropriately. He is uncomfortable and stressed out by this. I think her clothing is inappropriate and against the dress code. What are you going to do about it?
Sincerely,"
Clear and to the point. Then under your breath you could remind the aide that Spring Break isn't until April!
Good luck!
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mom to Ari(6) - severe nut allergies, asthma, you name it - and Maya (9), mild excema

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LOLOLOL
I think a quick fix would be to tell said teacher that her low cut shirts with boobs hanging out of them is turning your 11 year old son on and that it's causing him to feel all funny inside. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Unless that's the kind of message she's trying to send. :shrug:
Btw, does she have a tramp stamp? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:38am
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I agree: keep it short and. . . businesslike. I like the draft put forward by that'smetrying.
Question~ You've already notified both the principal and Dir of Sp Ed about this in verbal conversations? Yes?
If so, then at this point I wouldn't hesitate to put the name on record. You've given them (principal and Dir Sp Ed) the opportunity to take action and it remains a problem for your son. Personally, if I felt my concern needed to be raised to the level of providing a written letter, then naming the staff person is inevitable.

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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. [/b]
LOL! You're kidding, right? You're still in the same district that you've been in for a while now, right?

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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] LOL! You're kidding, right? You're still in the same district that you've been in for a while now, right? [/b]
your absolutely right....entrails for dinner it is!!!
Honestly, Gail? I'm still reeling from the whole shock of it. The idea that this may be [i]retaliation[/i] for asserting the necessity of an aide....remember how many weeks of "interviewing" there was? The initial lack of the "position" being filled prior to the start of school? The phone call the night directly before, asking me if I was still sending him although a related service tied directly to his health care plan as well as [i]what is currently ending up as instructional assistance[/i] was enumerated in his IEP??
I'm telling you, the whole "aide" issue could have been implemented a lot less noticeably in order to allow him to socialize....
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited November 02, 2006).]

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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b]
Btw, does she have a tramp stamp? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img][/b]
Okay, I was going to ask exactly what a "tramp stamp" was because I guess I have just not been "out there" much lately. Instead, I took my husband's advice and "wikipedia'ed it."
OH MY!
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Mommy to Aiden (1/26/05) PA,wheat,barley,soy,egg and others yet to be discovered and Connor (7/21/06) with possible egg allergy

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Next time you see this, take a picture of her and your son together. Seriously. Does you cell phone have a camera?

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Straight and to the point, yes. don't beat around the bush. Out with it, quickly.
So, your 11 yr old son has a one-on-one aide that dresses inappropriately? How old is SHE? Like, 20+ yo? I would guess a 'teachers aide' or something like that? (not like a junior/senior in high school, right?)
Have you talked to her about this? Has she dressed this way in the past? Have you talked to the principal (or 504 coordinator, or whoever's 'in charge')
Becoming more clear now...
Jason
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E-mom you crack me up! Some of the younger people in my neck of the woods call them "bulls-eyes". [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

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This is the point at which I would feel no compunction about manufacturing a fictitious neighbor/friend/relative who is a lovely 18 year old girl. She is beginning to explore the local college club scene.
Naturally, she'd love to know where to obtain such undergarments. Perhaps at
Victoria's (not-so-) Secret? I would ask this obviously fashion-forward person at my first opportunity. Since you've used your cell phone to snap a photo to admire later with this "friend/relative/neighbor." Naturally you need to know.
(silkily)[i]Oh, my... I hope I haven't embarrassed you by asking about your bra!! I had no idea you were so modest about it, dressed as you are. Soooooo sorry..... [/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
[i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i]
But I have been told I have a mean streak. I might be a bad influence. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
(In a whole pantheon of them, obviously...)
[This message has been edited by Corvallis Mom (edited November 02, 2006).]

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Ok here is another possibility... does she otherwise seem like a good aide and a nice person? You could just talk to her and tell her in a nice way that you don't want to embarrass her but the way she is dressing is causing your son to feel uncomfortable.
Or instead of writing a letter, you could just have a chat with the principal in a friendly way and they can have a chat about it without it being a formalized, potentially tense thing.
Of course I have no idea about what the atmosphere at your school is like. If you have an uncooperative administration and/or aide a letter may be the best way to go. And in that case, I agree with the other posters, I'd get right to the point in a polite way.
Sorry that you're having to deal with the booty call aide! Haha... as if you don't have enough concerns at school already!
Hang in there [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Ohhhhhh how about just asking her what dance club she's going to after school lets out. And then break out your disco inferno dance. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Oh man, I could have so much fun with this if I went to pick up your son from school. Please oh please oh please...can I???

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How about just telling her that you heard some of the kids :snicker: and makes comments like, "did you see the one teacher...she has big boobies" [/snicker] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ETA: make sure when saying this that you put a "laughing snort" in at the end.
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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 9:15am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b][i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i][/b]
We could nominate her! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]
I love how Stacy and Clinton do a sneak attack and scare the cr@p out of the person! The school staff (including the principal and Dir of Sp Ed) could be there when they watch the clips from weeks of secret videotaping of her wearing inappropriate attire. Can't you just hear Stacy and Clinton's comments? LOL!

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 9:19am
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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b]How about just telling her that you heard some of the kids :snicker: and makes comments like, "did you see the one teacher...she has big boobies" [/snicker] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ETA: make sure when saying this that you put a "laughing snort" in at the end. [/b]
she probably weighs all of [i]80 lbs. soaking wet[/i]. there is 8 inches of space between her legs when she stands with her feet [i]together[/i]. her earings are bulkier than she is. literally.
she makes *you* look corn fed. Her label size is "Barbie".
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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 9:23am
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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] We could nominate her! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]
[/b]
don't make me drool!
[i]tempting[/i]
I love rechannelling my energy...creatively.
ps...way to go Corvallis mom!

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 11:15am
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Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
As for your letter, I do think your point is lost in your "stream of consciousness" writing.
How about: "As previously discussed (Principal), (aide) is continuing to dress inappropriately (as determined by the school dress code) and it is having a negative impact on (child).
I expect that this will be addressed immediately and will no longer be an issue."
good luck!

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 8:56pm
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Quote:Originally posted by mharasym:
[b]Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
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Now if only my principal could repeat this to me, I'd think my child *might* be in an educationally [i]appropriate[/i] environment.

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