1st day of 2nd grade, my kid vs cafeteria worker

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 5:18am
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My DD is sooooooo smart! She bought chocolate milk and got upset because the container was "not right". The cafeteria worker was trying to force her to drink it and my DD continued to refuse and became upset!

School nurse is called and tells the worker to NEVER force a child to eat or drink something they are not comfortable with!

Then she compliments my daughter on being so smart and empties and washes the container for her to bring home so Mommy can check to be sure it is safe.

I am very proud of my little one today [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]!

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 5:37am
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Bravo for the nurse, too! You are lucky to have her.
Cathy

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 5:50am
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I'll second that. Great to see empowered kids, good job to you and your daughter.

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 2:16pm
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we also had an incident with a cafeteria worker. it happened last week but i just heard about it today.
long story but i'll try to shorten it....
intermediate school has changed the seating arrangement (of course, because it was working perfectly for us). the old way: my PA daughter (who is 10 yrs old) sat at a round table with 7 of her friends and classmates that do not bring pb or peanut products expressly so they can sit together as a group. this was not arranged by any staffperson at school...just something they cleverly came up with themselves.
now...the school has decided they have to all "mix up" for some reason. i'm not sure if it's to prevent cliques from sitting together on a daily basis or if it's so they can all meet different new friends, or whatever.
there are 8 chairs to each table. now the kids sit by exactly the people they are in line with (which means it could be anyone from any classroom) and fill up the tables accordingly. my daughter had permission from her teacher to either move or have someone else move if pb or peanuts end up near her at lunch.
last week, my daughter ended up next to a girl with a pb&j sandwich who was thoughtful enough to offer to move so my daughter could stay where she was. when the girl left, a vacant seat was left.
my daughter motioned to an acquaintance who was looking for a seat and offered the empty chair to her. the cafeteria monitor (a grumpy older man, according to the kids) came over and said....
"i saw you pull up that chair from another table." he then refused the chair to the little girl my daughter had offered it to and went on to say, looking at my daughter while speaking, "if you try that again another day, i WILL catch you. i promise you."
okay...first off....he's getting ready to deal with me. i don't often get upset but his behavior was horrible.
second of all...i intend to ask him if he can count. there are 8 chairs to each table (no more , no less). he could have easily counted the chairs and seen that HE was wrong.
third, he may need surgical removal of the chair from a qualified proctologist when i'm finished discussing his conversation with my daughter. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
but, like you, i was proud of my daughter for handling it so well. she remained pretty calm and knew i'd go to bat for her if necessary, which i will.
i'm sure you are very proud of your kiddo for sticking to her guns. we went through a stage where anything with a "P" in the ingredient list caused my youngest to refuse the item. i was always just proud that she was at least looking for that "P" in peanuts. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] it's so awesome when they start reading labels and showing a readiness to participate in watching out for themselves.
by the way, my 7 yr old now reads the labels on every class snack that comes into the peanut-free classroom she's in (of course the teacher backs her up and reads it as well). i love it!!

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 9:23pm
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It really does help when you know your child can stand up and take a stand in their situations when they are on their own.
I can not understand why schools hire "grumpy" type people to work in areas where our children are and where are children should be allowed to be children!!! That man needs a new job!!! The kids have a better understanding of the cafeteria protocol than he does!

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 11:30pm
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yes, purplecat, i agree. wanted: cafeteria monitors: grumpy types need not apply. haha. i'm always surprised how they get onto the kids for minor chatting and laughing. imo, it's a break during the day and should be enjoyed (within certain limits). i think it should be viewed as a time in which social interaction is encouraged as long as it's not disruptive.
it is frustrating when a situation happens like what happened with your child....you know the scenario...you teach your child a certain way to do things (as per your directions as a parent) and someone else then attempts to retrain your child in another direction. thankfully, your nurse backed up your instructions 100%. whether your child was correct (about the label) or not was not the point. the fact that she was following the procedure you have trained her in, was the point. this will help your kiddo learn to be so responsible and confident as she grows. i think your nurse really impressed upon your child that her attempts to manage her PA are absolutely relevant. very empowering.
[This message has been edited by joeybeth (edited September 07, 2006).]
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Posted on: Thu, 09/07/2006 - 1:32am
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I remember the grupmy types well. When I was a kid, the cafeteria monitors could declare a "silent lunch" any time they wanted. I think it was when one of them had a headache, looking back. There seemed to be no rhyme or reason to it when I was a kid, anyway. But silent lunch was just that--SILENT. No talking, whispering, laughing, even a cough meant one of the ladies would walk over and hover. This was in a K-5 school. Kids that age have a difficult time of controlling themselves all day, then to not be allowed to even whisper at lunch stunk!

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 5:37am
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Bravo for the nurse, too! You are lucky to have her.
Cathy

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 5:50am
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I'll second that. Great to see empowered kids, good job to you and your daughter.

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 2:16pm
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we also had an incident with a cafeteria worker. it happened last week but i just heard about it today.
long story but i'll try to shorten it....
intermediate school has changed the seating arrangement (of course, because it was working perfectly for us). the old way: my PA daughter (who is 10 yrs old) sat at a round table with 7 of her friends and classmates that do not bring pb or peanut products expressly so they can sit together as a group. this was not arranged by any staffperson at school...just something they cleverly came up with themselves.
now...the school has decided they have to all "mix up" for some reason. i'm not sure if it's to prevent cliques from sitting together on a daily basis or if it's so they can all meet different new friends, or whatever.
there are 8 chairs to each table. now the kids sit by exactly the people they are in line with (which means it could be anyone from any classroom) and fill up the tables accordingly. my daughter had permission from her teacher to either move or have someone else move if pb or peanuts end up near her at lunch.
last week, my daughter ended up next to a girl with a pb&j sandwich who was thoughtful enough to offer to move so my daughter could stay where she was. when the girl left, a vacant seat was left.
my daughter motioned to an acquaintance who was looking for a seat and offered the empty chair to her. the cafeteria monitor (a grumpy older man, according to the kids) came over and said....
"i saw you pull up that chair from another table." he then refused the chair to the little girl my daughter had offered it to and went on to say, looking at my daughter while speaking, "if you try that again another day, i WILL catch you. i promise you."
okay...first off....he's getting ready to deal with me. i don't often get upset but his behavior was horrible.
second of all...i intend to ask him if he can count. there are 8 chairs to each table (no more , no less). he could have easily counted the chairs and seen that HE was wrong.
third, he may need surgical removal of the chair from a qualified proctologist when i'm finished discussing his conversation with my daughter. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
but, like you, i was proud of my daughter for handling it so well. she remained pretty calm and knew i'd go to bat for her if necessary, which i will.
i'm sure you are very proud of your kiddo for sticking to her guns. we went through a stage where anything with a "P" in the ingredient list caused my youngest to refuse the item. i was always just proud that she was at least looking for that "P" in peanuts. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] it's so awesome when they start reading labels and showing a readiness to participate in watching out for themselves.
by the way, my 7 yr old now reads the labels on every class snack that comes into the peanut-free classroom she's in (of course the teacher backs her up and reads it as well). i love it!!

Posted on: Wed, 09/06/2006 - 9:23pm
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It really does help when you know your child can stand up and take a stand in their situations when they are on their own.
I can not understand why schools hire "grumpy" type people to work in areas where our children are and where are children should be allowed to be children!!! That man needs a new job!!! The kids have a better understanding of the cafeteria protocol than he does!

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