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#249414 - 05/24/07 05:35 PM House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Adele Adele Registered: 01/31/05 Posts: 3809	Sometimes I feel like I'm the only adult in the world with PA. Adrienne did a roll call here a while ago, so I know there are plenty of us out there. I wish this forum was more active. I have a house guest arriving tomorrow. I haven't seen her in years and she's coming for the weekend. I didn't see any reason to tell her about my peanut allergy - but now I'm wondering if I should. I plan on feeding her - and we'll go out to dinner one night to a restaurant that I know is safe.....but what if she brings food? I don't mind 'may contains' but I can think of some food that I wouldn't want in my house. What would you do?
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#249415 - 05/24/07 07:07 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Peg541 Peg541 Registered: 12/29/02 Posts: 4280	Hi Adele You're not alone. Guests, before anyone comes to spend more than a couple of hours in my home I tell them about my son's allergies and ask them to bring no food into the house. Including my DH poker buddies. One guy once brought the biggest tin of peanuts to a game here. He thought that because DS was away at college it was OK. I was horrified and he put the tin in his car. Horrified but polite. This avoids someone bringing a nice box of mixed nuts as a hostess gift. I make it really matter of fact. Usually it works just fine. People in Sunny CA tend to get LOTS of visitors. Peg [This message has been edited by Peg541 (edited May 24, 2007).] _________________________ Peggy Son 22 Allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, tomatoes, soy, milk, oats, fish.
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#249416 - 05/24/07 07:21 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
PennMom PennMom Registered: 08/01/06 Posts: 385	I would tell her also. We tell all our houseguests- no food is to be brought into our house at all. Maybe you could say something like I wanted to check to see if you like XXX...or what do you like to snack on- I wanted to get something we can BOTH enjoy because I have a peanut allergy and can't eat nuts or nut containing foods. I just always tell my guests oh please don't bring any food- we will have plenty to snack on- and we are very strict with the foods we have in the house due to DD's allergies. (Although Krispy Kreme doughnuts brought by my brother are the exception to this- wink- wink) Better to tell her upfront- that way she won't bring something with nuts as a "hostess gift". Have fun- I enjoy having people visit us better than staying with others- less stress and more control in the food department!
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#249418 - 05/24/07 09:37 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Adele Adele Registered: 01/31/05 Posts: 3809	Oh my goodness....I didn't think about a nutty hostess gift. I'll email her. Thanks! Much appreciated.
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#249419 - 05/24/07 09:54 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Anonymous Anonymous Unregistered	Adele, I tell people. This is my home and it's the one and only place I insist be safe. I don't care about may contains, but I don't want people bringing my actual allergens into the house.
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#249420 - 05/27/07 09:17 AM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
momll70 momll70 Registered: 09/26/06 Posts: 674	Hi there. I tell people of my allergy and my son's also and I tell them not to bring dessert or bread (sesame allergy). Because many people bring some kind of dessert and this way I don't have to feel bad afterwards telling them that we can't have it. If they really want to bring something they can bring wine or a "safe" snack for the kids. But I usually tell them to just bring themselves. [This message has been edited by momll70 (edited May 27, 2007).]
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#249421 - 05/27/07 11:15 AM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
VariegatedRB VariegatedRB Registered: 11/23/05 Posts: 182	Yeah, I think of it this way... is it more uncomfortable to tell someone ahead of time "Please don't bring any food to my home." or "Oh, how nice of you to spend all day baking that wonderful peanut butter pie, however, you can't bring it into my house!" I find it better to just say "No food" rather than "No peanuts (etc)" Partly because I have multiple food allergies, but also because people have often tried to accomadate my allergy and then I still don't eat their food! (Because they missed a warning on the label or they baked it themselves (I don't eat anything from a non-peanut free kitchen). I used to not say anything, but then ended up in situations where I had to refuse something from someone (which can make them feel bad) OR had anxiety over having something unsafe in my home. Most of the off limit foods brought into our home have been from relatives anyhow %( Tara P _________________________ Tara P
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#249422 - 05/27/07 06:24 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Adele Adele Registered: 01/31/05 Posts: 3809	Thanks for everyone's advice on this. I couldn't reach my houseguest before she left for my house. Fortunately, I'm not TNA because the only food she brought was Hazlenut coffee! I've got MORE guests arriving on Thursday. I called them and said, 'NO PEANUTS PLEASE!'. Good thing I did as they were planning to stop at the grocery store when they arrive in town. Thanks for your help.
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#249423 - 05/27/07 06:36 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Peg541 Peg541 Registered: 12/29/02 Posts: 4280	uh oh Adele. I called a coffee place once and was told their flavored coffees could not be assured to be safe. You never know where those hazelnuts were processed. Sorry prophet of doom here. My son has always coveted my flavored coffees and I feel horrible he can't indulge. Peg _________________________ Peggy Son 22 Allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, tomatoes, soy, milk, oats, fish.
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#249424 - 05/27/07 08:19 PM Re: House guests......do you tell them you have PA?
Adele Adele Registered: 01/31/05 Posts: 3809	Hiya Peggy, I didn't have any of the hazlenut coffee as I'm a tea drinker and can't stand coffee. But thanks for the heads up! Now I'm trying to get the coffee smell out of my house. Yuck!
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