The first wedding I\'ve attended in years..

Yuck! I can see this for the groom's cake--sure. But from a hospitality standpoint, in no way could I see this for the bride's cake. Allergies aside, not everyone likes PB, and if that's they offered their guests, shame on them.

Now, considering PB allergies these days, I'm very surprised that's all they offered (not that any of us would allow our children to eat a nonPB cake there, knowing the other cake was PB). Still, to the uninitiated, I would imagine they would think, "some people have an allergy to peanuts, so we should offer an alternative." I actually would have thought of that--and did so before DS' dx. I just would never have thought of cross contamination.

But goodness, from the the standpoint of inviting guests to your wedding and simply wanting them to enjoy themselves--you give them different things to eat.

The wedding is absolutely not about "it's what I want."

[This message has been edited by McCobbre (edited July 03, 2006).]

That sound gross!

I don't think before my PA, I would have thought about other people's allergies. If I *knew* that a guest had an allergy (or other dietary issue), I always made sure that I had something available for them, but I don't think I would have thought twice about serving something unless I knew about someone's allergy.

As for peanuts being everywhere. They really are lately.

I was dx years ago, but I have noticed in the past few years, the number of peanut products, the marketing of peanuts, eating peanuts as a snack, peanut flavored products are really increasing. It isn't just a matter of awareness, because I have been aware for a while... but I used to occassionally encounter peanuts, but now I run into them around every corner!

Tara P

So I've had PA/TNA my whole life. My best friend from high school got married and I was her maid-of-honor. Do you know that she made sure there were no dishes with peanuts/nuts? It was a buffet, and she let me talk to the chef at the hotel and everything. She went so far as to have them modify the green beans almondine to NOT have almonds! Same with the cake...no almond extract! I never asked for it either, she just did it and then told me :-) Even though I told her I didn't mind whipping out a subway sandwich, noone would have noticed anyway...but she did it anyway. How awesome is that?

Adrienne

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30-something survivor of severe peanut/tree nut allergy

That does sound pretty Yukky!!

The last wedding I attended (took the kids with me) there was a teen aged boy at the reception throwing peanuts at the younger kids including my nephews who were hanging out with my kids. I didnt realize there were even peanuts there until I saw this kid throwing them. I immediately grabbed up and took him off to the side and told lectured him on for one my dd's peanut/tree nut allergy, how it could take her life, and how he shouldnt even be throwing things in the 1st place. I came down pretty hard on him, but I wanted him to know how serious it was. Hopefully he never forgets it!

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Helen
Mom to Alyssa (PA, age 6)
Mom to Theodore (age 3)

Quote:Originally posted by PAMomInPA:
[b]I thought that was kind of funny because once you have the dx is seems like peanut butter just shows up everywhere you don't expect it to. [/b]

It does seem this way, doesn't it.

Yuck, peanut butter frosting!

Tracy

Quote:Originally posted by McCobbre:
[b]The wedding is absolutely not about "it's what I want."
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I think it is. It is the one day that the bride and the groom have every right to be completely selfish and do what they want for themselves.

(Exceptions when there are guests with special needs - including but not limited to allergies.)

Edited to add: As a *special needs* guest myself, lol - I have once brought my own meal to a wedding reception, and I once just skipped the entire meal part of a wedding. In neither case did I feel the bride needed to concern herself with my needs. It was HER day. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

[This message has been edited by AnnaMarie (edited July 14, 2006).]

well peanut butter yuck! 1 advantage , if the groom likes peanut butter take him to ur bedroom and wipe it everywhere on ur naked body then ask him to clean u up!!!

cheeky but it gets rid of the peanut icing!!

when i was a little girl, i was playing at a friend's house and her mother had just finished baking and frosting a beautiful cake. when i passed by it, i noticed the frosting was an odd color (not dark enough to be chocolate) and that it had a thick, disgusting odor. yep...it was frosted with straight peanut butter.

i was even a pb lover back then before PA entered my life when my children were born years later, and EVEN THEN i knew enough to know pb is not something to put on a cake. gross.