I don't know if I am making more out of it, but I am so upset, all I am do is crying.
Besides the fact that my baby will be starting school, the school I went to register him at said he can't go there because of some **** that doesn't make sense. This school is in my township and 5 mins away from my house, the school they say he has to go to is maybe a 45 min walk with a little one, which is how I will be getting him to school everyday. Snow or Rain, cold or Hot they want us to walk 45 mins instead of 5 mins. There are 2 schools in our district, but something about having to set limits and we are on the wrong side now so we have go to the farther away school and our township says it doesn't need buses.
Now my DD did go to this school 3 yrs ago and they tried telling me then she couldn't go because of this rule of limits, but they took her because I refused to send her to the father away one.
The differnce this time, when I went with my son, I brought up his PA and I got defensive when the school office couldn't answer any of my questions.
The nurse was out and the sub-Nurse didn't know anything, which really ticked me off.
It seemd no one knew what to do about the PA.
They say to me "we only serve PB and Jelly for lunch" and I said " Yea, that's Peanuts" so she said why how bad is his allergy. Which I didn't like and went off again, "I say he can die from this, and no one here seem to know what to do or is willing to change anything" then they say well we have a child that has a wheat allergy, and "I respond my child can die"
I didn't like being compared to another allergy. I know all about the wheat allergy, my Aunt and Mom has it and I am sorry you can not compare the two.
They go to get the principle because I want to know how will my son's PA be handle.
Do you know what the principle came out and said? I am sorry but you are registering at the wrong school, there is nothing I can do.
Well I tell him my DD went to the school and he said "not while I was here," Yea he was, so he said "the limits were just put in place" I said no they were here when my DD registered. And I know a few other kids that went to that school on my street. But he wasn't budging. So I said to him why did you come out to talk to me? Because I knew they went to get him about the PA but he never brought it up. So he said "Oh that's right the PA" I wanted to SCREAM!
Anyway he says we will transfere him to the right school since we just finished registering him, I was like NO, I will tell you what school to transfere him to once I calm down and decide what to do.
My head is spinning, I am so upset, I called a few schools and no one seems to care about my sons PA, All I hear is well we do serve it for lunch.
How do you register in school when there is no plan for PA I don't know what to do.
I also don't want him sitting by himself at lunch.
I did find a private school that is peanut free. But it will cost a bundle.
I am so stressed, on top of this we want to move but don't know if it will be in time for the new school year, we don't know where we will move.
My husband said I was throwing to much at the school at once and I had an attitude.
So I flipped I'll just add this to my never ending list of things that I will do myself, so now I am looking for the right safe school for my son.
Or a job that will pay for the private school.
Sorry but Dh is no help and I feel like I am on my own.
Sorry for the long vent.
Maria
In my opinion, if you are planning a move, I would put my energy into finding the right school. I would put a list together of general questions, like 1. Does your cafeteria serve PB? What is the procedure (peanut free table, or some schools actually have kids with pb sit at a separate table). 2.What is your snack procedures, birtdhay, etc. 3.Do you have children already with 504s for Food Allergies, 4. Is the medical kit kept in the nurses office, classroom, etc. Assess how "food allergy savvy" they are. Keep your notes on each school you call so you can review.
When I approached my child's school for registration and told the assistant principal that my child had multiple severe food allergies, her reply was "okay, just note it in the file and assume it will be handled." Would any of us do that - so crazy it is almost laughable. I called other schools and one school said right away "your child needs a 504", so there are good schools, there is hope. If it were me, I would call the school they are referring your child to and see how helpful they are. I know it is further, but maybe in the long run it will save you hassle and headaches in dealing with the school that is hesitant and uneducated about keeping your child safe. Wish you the best.