Not attending bday party b/c of contaminated pinata - unreasonable?

By the way, when I said that my son came into contact with the toys in the first pinata, I meant that all he did was [b]touch [/b]the toys. He did not touch the candy nor eat any candy. I guess another option would be to tell him not to go near my niece's pinata at all, but what about the cross-contamination issue since the other kids will be eating the candy and then playing with the same things that my children would be playing with at the party?

Just some thoughts.

Hi. Sorry to hear about your sons reaction. Bulk food bins are notorious for cross contamination issues. If I were you, I would not go to the party at all. I could not trust the pinata especially after the reaction prior to the party and the cross contamination on the other children as you just mentioned.
I would wait for a time after the day of the party. Even if you did take your kids earlier than the party their cousin would probably be so excited about the party that she would talk all about it and that could upset your kids about not staying. I am so sorry that you are in this situation. When its family that are not understanding that makes it feel so much worse imo. I hope whatever you choose works out for your family.

I would go, and just keep him away from the pinata and its contents.

nope - would not go. if he had a reaction just by touching the stuff what happens when another kid eats or touches the toys/candy then touches ur child.
its tough but u could either go in the morning for a breakfast party (safe choc. cake for everyone or choc. chip pancakes) or just wait another day. i dont think it would be fair to ur kids to leave when the pinata came out, or to make them stand back even. that would be hard not to be included in that since they already feel left out on a daily basis.
just put ur kids first and do what is best for them. follow ur inner voice and if its telling you not to go, then listen to it.
dont be too hard on ur brother, he is just thinking of his kids and how to make them happy. yes it sucks that he wouldnt consider his godson but he just doesnt get it. im sure he is just thinking its a little rash, big deal, give him some cream. you cant change his thinking so just do what u feel is best for ur family and if he has an issue with that then let him have an issue.
ur kids come first.

good luck

I would not go at all.

You have to remember that whatever decision that you make about this party will carry forward to other family events. You really have to not go, and take a stand. This is for your childs safty, and what does it say to the family that you will go and hope he does not have an reaction. If you give a little wiggle room now, they will expect it later.

Sometimes as parents of allergic children, we almost have to take the feeling out of our decisions. This will not be the only birthday party. Better safe than sorry. We are doing it for their best interst, etc. etc. Belive me, it is not easy making these decisions, but you will be teaching your children that putting their live in danger just this once, is not an option, no matter what they will be missing.

Thank-you everyone for your responses and for your support. The party took place this afternoon and we did not attend. Instead, we went to our local amusement park so that our boys could have some fun.

I felt a little badly about missing my niece's birthday, but we needed to take a stand and to make a point that this is a very serious matter. My brother and sister-in-law are so in the dark (or should I say insensitive?) about this allergy that they might even feel offended that we didn't attend. Imagine!!!

Thanks again.

I agree with the others and would have also said not to go. I'm glad you guys found something else fun to do! I hope your brother and SIL are able to eventually come around and don't give you a hard time about not going.