Allergic Child no longer invited to wedding

My sister's wedding in in one week, I am a bridesmaid, my husband was asked to be an alter boy. We have three children who were invited as well as long as we have a baby sitter with them. Our 1-year-old has milk, dairy, peanut, tree nut, wheat and oat allergies. For the last several months I have been trying to talk to my sister as well as my mother about the reception place and their cross contamination policies which was never met with any response. I would pack his food so there really won't be an issue. I actually have stickers for him that say don't feed me and lists is allergies. Three weeks ago we were told that our child was no longer invited to the wedding by my parents but the other two non-allergic children were invited . An argument happened, etc (I did try to talk to my sister, the bride but she would not return calls or emails). I then had my husband call the groom and talk everything over with him. THe groom assured us that our son was in fact invited, and everything was fine. Well today we received a phone call from the groom stating that my sister and my parents told him, he was to call us and tell us to no longer bring our son. We have decided to no longer take part in their wedding and will not be attending any events. I try to talk to my parents and they did not return my calls, so I did call the groom and explain why we would no longer be involved or attending anything. Has anyone dealt with anything similar to this?

By foxtip on Mon, 12-16-13, 03:24

I hope you were able to work this out with your family already but wanted to give my view on the situation.
I wouldnt think your sisters intention would be to harm you or your child but to protect you. I think this was done out of fear and love not ill intentions or selffishness. You and your husband were to be particpnts in the wedding and so your children would have been in someone elses care and other children do not read stickers and though they may not feed your child they may grab your childs hand and then you may have some serious cross contamination with cake or whatevers going on.
I would think they also had to consider the age of your child and thought a one year old is not going to remember this or be effected negatively by not going.
I understand your frustrations and hopefully someday there will be a cure to allergies. I miss going out to eat with my friends and family but theres no way i can take chances on a restaurant preparing food for me and nobody is comfortable eating in front of someone who cant.
Best wishes

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By andy8922 on Wed, 11-06-13, 03:24

I am so sorry to hear this. And I cannot believe it! How horrible, I couldn't even imagine being treated this way - especially by family. I fully agree with you not attending. I know it's the brides day - but it's all about being surrounded and celebrated by your loved ones. All I can say is try and educate them more. Do they not realize this can kill your child! Are they really willing to cause family drama over food? It seems so silly.

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