is it wrong to ask people to not order peanuts at a restaurant?
ok so i went out to dinner with some friends who are all aware I'm deadly allergic to peanuts. one of them ordered some peanut dish and i assumed she forgot that i almost died last time someone brought peanuts to a gathering. i nicely asked her, "sorry do you mind if we try and avoid peanuts?" and she replies with "why?" and i said because I'm allergic. she told me i wouldn't be eating it but it doesn't really matter because if the peanuts are cooked or heated and i inhale, i can have a severe reaction. she angrily says, "k...." and ordered it anyway. the next day i confirmed that what i told her about inhaling peanuts being true just to clarify misunderstandings and didn't even tell her not to do it again and she tells me, "well i just won't go out for dinner with you again" followed by "if its gonna cause such a problem for you then don't bother inviting me out". sorry am i missing something? something that is so life threatening and all you do is ask your 'friend' to not put your life at risk and somehow that is so wrong? my friends don't seem to see any problem with her actions/reactions and told me i can't "dictate" what people eat. they are right. i can't dictate what people eat. but in no way was i doing that. i didnt tell her what to do, it was simply a question. it doesn't bother me at all what people eat, but if they have the choice to put your life at risk for the sake of their satisfaction or to just pick something else from the menu, yet they *choose* to take the risk, then how does that make me the bad person? is it wrong to ask your friend to not do this when you're around?