Link to article: \"Living with Anaphylaxis: Handling the Stress \"

thanks again..i can use this one too. joey

Thank you. It made me and my stress level seem normal and reminded me how important it is not to convey too much stress to my daughter.

MommaBear, thanks for the link. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

It was really good for me to read to-day. I was walking home from the grocery store and I know that as soon as I get in the door I pick up the phone to see if there are any messages. I always have.

But since Jesse's anaphylactic reaction at school in December month, I have actually been afraid to leave my home. My DH has a cell phone for when he is at school or work so that he can be reached. I can't afford to get one myself at this point.

So, I was thinking, on the way home about re-raising the Post Traumatic Stress after a Reaction thread because of the way I'm feeling. I know that no one else around me in *real* life knows that I'm suffering. I actually had to tell DH the other day when I was planning to go out with Ember in the morning why it was important that he answer his cell phone, because I would be out and that I was afraid. This was the first time he had heard of it (my anxiety) and he really didn't have much of a response. Or, let's just say his response was not compassionate, caring, or concerned. Just that he would make sure that he answered his cell. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

What I do have though is ALL of the people here who continue to guide me through this journey, support my continuing difficulties with the school by offering suggestions and simply offering comfort and caring. I'm not getting it anywhere else.

However, as noted in the article, it's a good thing to build up a support group around you, and that, I certainly have, thanks to everyone here. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

One thing I do know for sure. Any anxiety that I may have about Jesse and his PA and going to school now, Jesse doesn't know about either. Since I run the breakfast program at the school, he doesn't find it odd of me to walk past his classroom as I leave the school to wave good-bye (I was doing this before the reaction, I wouldn't have been doing it if I didn't run the breakfast program). He doesn't know the fear that I carry with me.
Everyone here knows it instead.

I believe there is also some good information regarding parental stress available at [url="http://www.allergicchild.com"]www.allergicchild.com[/url] I know I checked it out before and thought it was quite good.

Thanks again, MommaBear.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Cindy,

In my humble, honest opinion: If it is any comfort, know that that "fear" is with any loving, compassionate, concerned mother irregardless of any condition, from the moment we are aware they dwell within our bodies or the moment we take them under our wing and prayer. (Adoption is such a beautiful choice)

Quote:Originally posted by Cindy Spowart Cook:
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But since Jesse's anaphylactic reaction at school in December month, I have actually been afraid to leave my home.
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HI Cindy..

It must be so hard to be a parent of a PA child, always worrying about them. At least in my case, it is just myself that I have to worry about so it is not that bad. It is easier.

But I can't even imagine the stress about worrying about your little guy.

Maybe get a new book from the library to read while you are stuck at home and I hope this will relive the stres..

best wishes [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

I guess I am werid becauce that artitcle bugged me. I do all of that stuff and people around us still say 'she is an overproctive mother and a crazy one' and other not so nice things. What are we supossed to do when people around us do not get it and tell you they won't even try? The stress of that is what is the hardest. If people would work with me, dd could attend church, AWANA and scouts. But they won't.

[img]/peanut/boards/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/confused.gif[/img]

MommaBear, thank-you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] However, I know my situation or feelings are different with Jesse than they are with his sister Ember. When I send Ember to school, yes, I do have to worry that I may get a call saying that she has been hurt in the playground or is ill at school, but it's so much more different than thinking you may be getting a call saying that your PA child has had a reaction and all of the horror that that involves. I do understand what you're saying, but I'm not afraid to leave the house if Ember is at school right now, but I am with Jesse at school. I'm sure I'll get over it with some more time.

erik, I always have a good book on hand, not to worry. I think if you add my computer time, television time and book time all together, it would probably explain why no housework gets done ever, but try telling that to DH! No, I actually read just before I go to bed. I just finished a good book I have to post about in the Books thread in Off Topic.

erik, have you wondered if you ever had children if they would be PA as well, or do you just think it would "luck of the draw" as it seems to have been with most of us here?
(And you don't have to answer that one 'cus it was terribly personal). [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes

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Hi Cindy,

I do not think any children of mine would have PA. It is possible of course.

But in my family, I am the only one with PA.... so it doesn't seem to pass through families.

However, I have read many times that if you have allergies, it is more likely that your children may have allergies too. So any children I may have would probably have some type of allergy (hayfever? cat allergy? etc), though not necessarily the same allergy as me.

reraising for gizmo.

reraising.

good timing [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

[This message has been edited by mistey (edited August 30, 2004).]