Do you let your anaphylactic child go to friends' houses without you?

ack, my son is 4, so i can still go on playdates with him. I plan on doing that for a LOT longer!! That is a tough spot, but I completely agree with you. I don't think at 6 I would be comfortable yet. I've thought about waiting outside at some point in the car for him. But then you still have to trust the parents recognize the signs and will come out and get you. We had a playdate where he had a reaction from the boys saliva, they shared a harmonica - so we've learned you don't even have to eat something. I don't know, but I think it would be much later than 6 years old.

Cervonil,
The sharing of a harmonica (or a toy recorder/flute) is a typical example of something that the parent of a non-allergic child would never even think of. Last night, I had a friend over with her son and her son put on my son's Spiderman costume including the fabric mask. Of course, I threw the mask in the wash when they left, but here is another example of something that I myself had not even thought of up until last night, so why would I trust or expect my 6 year old to think of these things. Just some of the challenges we parents are facing ...

to be honest I never even thought of that, as we had only been diagnosed 1 month prior. They were also sharing a recorder - I watched him play with them - never even dawned on me till his lip swelled up! You live and learn.

Cervonil,
Thanks for your replies. Here's another example. A couple of years ago, we went to my nephew's birthday party where my son broke out into hives after gathering up his pinata goods (we told him to just get the little toys, NOT the candy). Anyway, after a bit of investigation, we found out that my sister in law purchased the (wrapped) candy at a bulk food store and they had come in contact with the pinata toys (inside the pinata), so when my son touched the contaminated pinata toys, he reacted with hives. We gave him Benadryl that time since it was only hives, but who would have thought???????

HI
My son is 9 and I haven't let him go to friends houses with out me. I am wresling with that topic now. He has had a couple of invites but I have not let him. I know that I have to let him go but he isn'nt very responsible. Also when I mention it to the mom about his allergy and using an epi they kind of back off.

So I am not sure they want him there. *sigh*

My DD will be 8yrs old the end of this month and I still haven't allowed her over to houses without me present. The parents that have invited her over already know about her allergy and understand that I'm not ready to leave my daughter yet.
I have had people tell me "I'm not sure I could give her a shot if she needed it." ?!?!?! Really??? Just going to let her die?!?! Goodness Sakes!
I'm not sure when I'll be comfortable. We just make sure to invite kids over to our house. We also throw at least one party a year for DD to invite a lot of her friends over. Sometimes birthday....last year it was a Halloween party. My DD is responsible but that's not what worries me. I might re-visit the idea when she's 10yrs old. No clue yet.