Grandma doesn't understand food allergies... Help!!
My mother-in-law just does not get it when it comes to my son's allergies. He is 1 1/2 years old and allergic to peanuts, milk, beef, and peas. So far his worst reaction has been breaking out all over in hives and throwing up all over the place (this is what prompted us to have him tested).
Anyway, my mother-in-law is constantly arguing with us to give him foods while out at restaurants, weddings, etc. We say no because of not seeing ingredients, shared equipment, cross-contamination issues. She gets angry and argues with us. She accuses us of being over-protective and says that if we don't expose him to the stuff he is allergic to on a regular basis, he'll never get over his allergies.
I've tried discussing the issue with her, but she is stubborn and frankly not very bright so she has trouble really understanding things.
Does anyone know of a good book or article or such that can explain these food allergy issues to the older generations so that they get it? Apparently showing her his test results and her seeing him get hives on his face is not enough. I hate to isolate her from my son's life, but I may be forced to. Any suggestions?