Could we be any luckier???

That is amazing! You really did strike gold! I am very happy for you!!

Do you think you could clone her? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Amy

That's great! Maybe you feel like I did when I was sending my son to preschool and I found out the preschool teacher had a 6-yr-old son with peanut allergy! Feels pretty good, huh?

Yes, how wonderful that so many people are deathly allergic to a ubiquitous food product. We should have a party!

Nutster, I am not clear on your remark. You sound like an angry person? First of all I don't think that mattsmommy meant anything like she was thrilled someone else had the allergy to peanuts. What she was saying was that she found someone that will not accidentally hurt her child. Having someone that totally gets the allergy makes it a hell of lot easier to leave her child. I know that if i found someone with the allergy i would be more apt to be comfortable about leaving my child with that person. IF YOU FEEL THAT CELEBRATING THE FACT THAT SOMEONE HAS A FOOD ALLERGY IS SOMETHING YOU NEED TO DO THEN YOU HAVE YOUR OWN LITTLE PARTY! I WILL NOT CELEBRATE THE FACT THAT MY CHILD HAS ONE WITH YOU!! ONly a sick person would even make such a stupid remark like having a celebration. You obviously have no idea about what you have just read and should not have made such a terrible comment.
My son can not believe someone like you would want a party and would make such a snotty remark.
Mattsmommy i am glad you have someone to watch your child and are so fortunate that they get it and will protect your child the way we need to. Good luck claire

It should be pretty obvious by now that if you respond to the provocation it will just continue and even escalate. We can work around these people. They are all over the internet and they hang around in the places where they have the most fun. C'mon, we're all mothers. We know how to handle petty misbehavior--you don't argue with children, you ignore them.

Claire, [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Thanks for your reply...just wanted to say that I was not personally offended by Nutster. He/she is just a lowlife with nothing better to do.

I'm relatively new here, but did read MANY previous posts. I know what YOU are about and I know that the people like Nutster are about...so I don't waste my time and energy on people like him. YOU are the reason me and other new members join and participate in this board. The friendly and informative nature of this board more than makes up for the wasted space of Nutster's posts.

So, thanks for "taking care" of Nutster...but know that school starts soon. He'll be busy again soon enough.. we only have to put up with him a bit longer. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Thanks again...just don't you to be all upset about Nutster..it's not worth it on my account. I just ignore him. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Maddy
Mommy to Matthew born 6/8/01

Hi MattsMommy, I am so glad that you found a babysitter who already has first hand knowledge of peanut allergy. I had a similar situation with one of my daughter's camp counsellors two years ago. It gave me great piece of mind. Miriam

Sorry to all of you that I had the need to respond! It wasn't the need to argue with that person,but the need to speak up for my son. I wasn't thinking about the person as being a "terror" I guess I had gotten totally caught up in the comment and had the protection instinct. My apolgies to all of you and I will indeed stop my posting for a while. Maybe I will come back in September. I can not take it when anyone pokes a jab at the children we have. God bless these children and I will be back when i can deal things better.
Claire

Claire, I hope you will see this. You have no need to apologize to anyone here. Each person can decide whether or not to respond to a post. You felt the need to do so, and that was totally fine. No one else has the right to decide for you if you should post or not. If you need to take a break I totally understand; I will look forward to your return. Just please don't think you did anything wrong: you did not. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

Just reading the words "could we be any luckier" and feeling.... sigh, jealous!!!
I need a baby sitter so that I can go to a ACDC tribute band !!!!
Never mind the allergic child who wants to baby sit four children!!!!
sarah

Claire, I hope you didn't think my post was intended to chastise you in any way. I was only trying to head things off at the pass because of what happened here a few weeks ago. I wanted to try to help prevent it from flaring up into a free for all. I didn't mean to sound judgmental. You didn't do anything wrong AT ALL and there's no need for you to apologize or stop posting. I am sincerely sorry if you were offended by what I said.

I had thought of posting at the HS and gym for a sitter "familiar" with food allergy. I think it is a two-sided benefit for the sitter and the "sittee". I babysat so much, and starting at around 10-11 with moms around or on short errands locally. I was thinking about how I would worry to have my dd sitting for kids someday, if she needed to fix them food she should not handle, or if she were super reactive and nuts were around the home. If the sitter were food or PN allergic, it would be a great benfit to both parties. I, the employee would understand the accomodations needed for the sitter as well as they for my child.

I even have the situation in my neighborhood, where close friends, who know how I handle our allergies, have recommended a sitter who is quite young(13 or so). I was willing to try her, with an emergency call list and being nearby, but het mom is hesitant to have be responsible for such a situation, should it arise. My friends assure me she is super responsible and calls with any questions(and I have a very safe home), but her mom feels personally anxious about the allergy, so said, "I think *I* would be nervous sitting for her, I do not think my daughter is quite old enough for that". You are lucky indeed to find a sitter who can handle and understands the allergy. Here, I am willing to take the leap, and have such trouble finding sitters. becca

Claire, California Mom contacted me about what had happened to you in this thread, I just had some difficulty finding out what thread it was in! LOL!

As everyone has posted above, you have no need to apologize for responding to the obvious *terrorist* Nutster (or I would call him/her a *nutter*). These bloody people do enanger us. Of course, that's what they want and Nutster has made disparaging comments in other threads. I sat back and tried to figure out one he/she had made in a thread I have running and realized he/she is one of the *terrorists* that hit the board and we just didn't find him/her in time.

Of course, it's also really difficult to figure out who the *terrorists* are unless they're really extremely blatant like the ones from a few weeks ago. But, if you look at the time that Nutster registered with PA.com it's the same time as the other *terrorists*. It's okay that you didn't know that. You shouldn't have to keep track of a**holes on the website.

I understand that you probably wanted to educate an ignorant person and you know what, Claire, that makes you a better person than me. I would just like to tell them to F off (pardon me).

I would NEVER want you to leave us, Claire, especially because of some idiot that is likely to leave, as posted above, as soon as school starts again.

Why? Because you're the Mom I know with the oldest PA child and all of us learn from your sensitive, caring posts. We know that our children can get to teenage-hood (is that a word? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img] ). You give us hope and that's what we need. Don't have true, needing members lose your experiences because of an idiot.

Nutster, I won't be back into this thread, so if you respond to me I won't be reading it. I don't even have the time to pop back in to see if you do respond. I have the time to post here and hopefully help others and gain the support I need as well.

Now, since we've all figured out that Nutster is a *terrorist*, nutter at best, we all know now just to avoid answering unless we choose to. I know I just responded to the fool in that other thread because I thought this was a legitimate person and I couldn't understand a comment that was made. Interestingly enough, after the strange comment that was made and my questioning thereof, I didn't receive an answer!

We can't lose you Claire. We can definitely lose Nutster. I think you get my idea.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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I'm so glad you have such a perfect sitter for Matthew! =) I have left my Matt with my mother on occasion, but so far only in MY home (where there are no nut products to tempt her into performing a 'test' on him...*shudder*). As far as baby-sitting outside of my home, I can think of only 3 people I'd feel even halfway comfortable with. My stepmother (who lives on the other side of the country...not likely to ever happen), my SIL (who lives on the other side of the state...so not real likely either), and a friend I met online. Ok. Here, to be precise. lol

My stepmom and my SIL are both very understanding and both *get* it, and can definently both be trusted to follow any and all guidelines etc I set forth, but neither can ever *get* it the way my friend does. Not unless they can travel back in time, grow up PA, then raise 2 PA kids. hehe

In terms of the worry (in regards to the PA) I would have leaving Matt with a babysitter... Rebekah rates a 0 in or out of *my* house. NO worries. My SIL and stepmother both get about a 1 or 2 in *my* house and about a 4 out of it. My mom in *my* house rates about a 4, outside of *my* house closer to a 8.

It *definently* makes a difference! =)

Chris
Mommy to Matt (PA, 12-29-98) and Meagan (not PA, 12-17-97)

Isn't it nice to find a child care provider who can relate to your child and your concerns?

We're fortunate enough to have a girl living behind us who has to carry an epipen. She's outgrown peanuts (eats Snickers bars without incident) but still retains some other allergies that require her epipen. She is one of the only people we trust with out dd.

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Lory
PA dd Graham
[url="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ChsFFAS/"]Charleston Family Food Allergy Support[/url]

My niece and nephew are both PA and carry epi pens. They are in their teens and both have babysat for us before (they sometimes even babysit for us together!) I have to say that when they babysit I feel much better that when one of our other sitters is over.
Though - we did have a new babysitter last week who I think is going to work out really well. She lives 3 doors away and her mother is a nurse. I asked her and her mom over so I could explain about the allergy and epi pen. It turns out she had been reacting (redness, hives) to nuts last year and during her 4 month wait to see an allergist, avoided all nuts and may contain products. She's very responsible and really seems to "get it".
You're right Matts Mommy -we are lucky!